long distance, not too long...

my boyfriend and i live about a little over an hour apart. we met on the internet and have been dating for almost a year and a half. i'm not sure why i put myself in these types of situations, but i've never had a bf who's lived closer than half an hour to me. i think my issues evolved from my past relationship with a guy in the same area as my current. my ex of course didn't have transportation so i'd be going to see him every weekend. i am a fulltime student and work part time so my avaliability is kind of set. i usually am done with school/work by 6...bf gets out of work at 6....we've met once halfway in the middle of the week to see a movie and grab dinner, but other than that i see him in the afternoon friday, all of saturday, and sunday morning before i leave for work.
so my issues:
1. we never really talk on the phone. rarely if to call and say we're at each others places or if hes driving home late from his parents i tell him to feel free to call me. other than that during the week its internet talk...whiles hes at work we chat a little, sometimes late at night when he gets home from whatever he does from 6pm on.
2. ex girlfriend alert. they dated in college...for three years..lived together .broke up "mutually" because things werent working out between them a year before i was in the picture. BUT they hangout all the time still. go to shows, dinner, game nights. and i just dont like it. i've mentioned it to him....how i dont like the situation. he asked me if there was any way id feel better about the situation and i said no. and he said hes sorry that he cant make me feel better about it.
i dont want to be a bitch and tell him he cant hangout with her AND mutual friends occasionally, but i really feel like this is whats going to tear us apart. i've tried really hard to grow up and see that hes with me and not her for a reason but there are times where i think that if he cant put us ahead of his friendship that i'm just gonna give up.
i also just cant come to terms with their thing...if youre sick of someone and things arent working out, why do you still hangout with them?
is there something im missing?
he swears (and i know looots of assholes say this) that he would never cheat, he hates people who do shit like that...and i want to believe him, but theres no way of knowing because i only see him a few days a week.

idk i just feel like im going to make stupid decisions if i dont get someone elses point of view on this. i dont want to end something great because of some stupid little insecurity i have

 

I think a main key to long distance relationships is communication as much as possible. Try to initiate phone conversations with him if he's not calling you. Try texting each other, etc.

As for the ex, you can still be friends with someone after you've been romantically involved. Same situation for my gf and her friend. You'll get a little jealous sometimes, but ultimately you have to trust your partners better judgement. Trust being the key word there.

 

Easier said than done. We mostly communicate through internet, but I feel like if I call him he might be busy and that just makes for an awkward situation...

 

i don't see how that will be awkward. if you are that close and you call him and hes busy he will either not answer cuz he can't pick up the phone or he will pick up and be like i can't talk right now i will get at you when i can...awkward moments bring people closer sometimes but i really dont see how it would be awkward