I am in love with 2 guys i mean i really love them both one of them is my boyfriend(also bestfriend) and the others is my best friend and nothing else both of them love me i know they do and i really love them both they are friends but i cant be with both i now one of them will leave me but i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!1
It's not love in the sense of true love if you're torn between two people. There are different types of love, but when you find a mate and companion, other people don't matter. You're not drawn to the idea of being with anyone else and certainly not to the point where you can't decide between them. It's natural to reach a stage in a relationship where you wonder what things might be like to be with other people, but when you really love someone, you aren't tempted to betray the person you're with. You need to sit down and think about how you feel about them and decide what it is you really want from either of them. As awesome as it would be to have them both, it isn't logical.
*sigh* A problem I've had with humanity in general is that they're pretty liberal with their use of the word "love". Sure, there's lots of ways you can love. There's love for one's family, love for one's friends, love for a pet, love of a favorite show, love of a favorite food, and then there's love for a special someone. Unfortunately, those special someones really aren't so special, as they're interchangeable like socks or underwear. People view these as their "significant" other but they're really not so significant. It's nothing to open a school text book and read that "Misty loves" followed by a list of ten different names all crossed out with the eleventh at the bottom being the only one not stricken... for now. The proper term here wouldn't be "love" but more appropriately "like". If a person ever finds someone really special, someone that they really love in a way that few people ever really know, this person is truly a significant other, and someone that is truly significant isn't interchangeable or replaceable, even if that relationship doesn't work out. You won't like me saying this, but you don't "love" two guys. You like them. If you really loved them, in a way more significant than people's trivial use of the word "love", that person automatically has no competition because your heart would be helplessly devoted to them exclusively, even if you tried not to be. Even if you have some emotional attachment to them and want to regard that attachment as "love", it would be of a primitive and trivial level such as everybody else knows but neither would be significant. Hate me if you wish, but I'm just being honest with you, not trying to make friends or fans.
Try to make them see that the best way to live would be to allow you to love both of them at the same time. If they are afraid of bieng overly jealous tell them that there is hope if they simply talk about it and know they are alrite to feel it.
Jelousy is an emotion that tells you whether or not you want something. It is a drive towards something that is natural. However, purely following emotion is not the best way of handling situations and this is the key to understanding your desires.
