Im going to say straight away that I dont have it or get it This I realised whilst listening to a friend talk incessantly about the 6 packs of the half naked young men in the swimming pool with us the other day...See its not just that Im married now. Ive never felt it Yes I can appreciate male beauty in a kind of artistic way. I can certainly tell when a man is handsome or has a nice looking body. But that doesnt make me want to do anything with them, get to know them, or even have sex related thoughts about them particularly, as it obviously did for my friend and as I know a lot of women experience. It never has done. Ive never thought "phwoa hes nice looking, Im going to go and talk to him"... What I seem to get is mental attraction, and whoever Im attracted to mentally the body comes as part of the package and I dont really think twice about it. On many occasions Ive been deeply attracted to people Ive never met, from their words, and THAT instigates physical desire for me The problem with all this is it kind of means Im missing out. I dont get to have girly conversations about which celebrity Id like to spend a night with, because Im so logical and unfeeling about the subject that I simply think "I dont know these people, why would I be interested?" which of course isnt a very fun attitude at all. And I cant really feign interest I dont get to watch porn because it does absolutely nothing for me. I dont get to do all these wild things that your average 21 year old may well be into. Infact Im starting to think people are right and Im just an all round prude Its a tricky thing to describe because in my own way I can be really sexual. Give me someone whose mind attracts me and Im very open and up for fun, and when the mind attracts I really do appreciate their looks If youve managed to get this far down in the essay-how often do you feel pure physical sexual attraction, say for strangers or those you dont know very well?
Rarely. I used to feel it, but it never lasted longer than 2 minutes. I'd be like: wow, he's hot, but then I catch myself thinking : ugh, wtf. It feels weird and awkward. I don't think I'm very sexual, but I don't even want to be. Physical attractiveness can't really hold my interest for too long.
well not very often really. when i was smaller...deeper in the puberty i had very strong physical attraction towards many people. i was a little, nasty horny pervert. Right now i feel strong physical attraction towards just one man and believe me or not right now it`s hard for me to think of having sexual attractions toward anybody else. he is just too hot, too perfectly made for me critical soul!
People are so oversexed these days. It kinda makes me sad. And annoyed. P.S. You're verseau_miracle !
Yes, its me...hello!:willy_nilly: I cant remember why i changed my name. Or just switched accounts then. Hmm And people are ridiculously oversexual nowadays...Im starting to feel abnormal for being how I am. I got invited to a swinging party thing by someone I barely know the other day. I said Im married. Thats ok she said, bring him along I mean good on em if thats what they want, but she seemed pretty surprised I wasnt interested!
thanks btw just wanted to say that watching at you`r pictures makes me feel all warm inside you seem like the sweetest person
If it makes you feel any better, I'm not over sexed.....Only down to the recommended 5 a day now :tongue:
Hmmm yeah my sex drive is ridiculously over high. And yeah I do kid myself I can get along with someone I only fancy, and sometimes infact genuinely dislike as a person. Fortunately I now realise that I should control my sex drive, not have it control me. Sex is pretty easy to get, and pretty meaningless if its something that is driving u. Its one of the world's biggest lies that u should hunt for it at all opportunities. I think...
That's what they want you to think, fruits and vegetables make the best lovers. This thread is making me feel a bit shallow, everytime I see an attractive woman my reationality goes out of the window and I start to run a away with little imaginary scenerios, sometimes I romantisise about us spending an eternity together and other times I imagine pure filth at the nearest convenience...I can't help it. Am I a pervert?
Yeah prev, get away from me! Seriously I dont think thinking like that is shallow, I think its just normal and Im a bit of a freak Its only shallow if youd only ever actually be with someone for their looks or you lived your life doing strangers because you thought they looked good and you never got to know anyone you didnt want to screw. If this is the case then youre a dirty shallow perv Enjoy your 5 a day!
Oh fuck! Any room in that club jon?! In all seriousness, I'd love to meet someone I could be happy with just for their personality, though attractiveness is also important to me, I don't mind admitting it either, it's a natural occurance. I did once live with a woman who I fell for because she had a wicked personality, I was totally loyal to her, loved her to bits and felt really secure with her...turns out you can't trust somebody just because you like their personality, I mean I've had attractive girls cheat on me, but this was something else. She shagged my (not) friends, her boss, mates at uni/work, she even had threesomes behind my back.....eughk! So now I'm really not trying to find anyone. I'm just getting on with my own life and if I meet someone I really like I'll know whether to take it seriously or not. I do meet people I like sometimes, but I'd have to 'really' like them to take it further than fuck buddies. God this really does sound sad, pass the noose.
Ugh sorry to hear that Rask! I understand what you mean completely, fucked up selfish people are everywhere I have to say after what I went through with an ex I would NOT have been looking for a relationship if I hadnt met my husband straight after. I dont think I have bothered with fuck buddies either though because it doesnt do it for me. My story would be REALLY sad and Id have spent my days alone, mistrusting, frustrated and probably on drugs, if Id have even been alive. See, things arent so bad! Really you dont sound bad at all You sound like a good guy having some fun. Youve probably got some horrible secret though...
No, I'm not bad. I don't mislead anybody and I don't think that sex is the be end and end all. I respect my friends and realise that as you said fucked up people are everywhere...especially in the 'party scene'. I have plenty of secrets....I'm not going to write any here though
i'm the same maxi. i rarely get a physical attraction from people just from looking at them. as you say i can appreciate a good looking chap when i see one, but it doesn't make me interested in them in any way and never has. my hubby is not the most gorgeous bloke on the face of the earth (sorry fitz) but to me he is the most handsome man alive, because we have a connection mentally and always have had and i always find that much more attractive to me than some fit bloke. i just don't think in that way. but with my hubby i am a very sexual person. we do it, A LOT.
Often. I do like looking at curvy girls in the North Laines, though I'm mostly attracted to the hippie/alternative look. Girls in high heels and plastered in makeup don't float my boat, so for me I suppose it's a combination of looks + outfit + vibes = hotdiggitydamn!
This is a great thread! Sometimes i think life would be easier if people had a mandatory heart to heart with everyone they intended to get close to :tongue:
