I can't take it anymore. I'm really sick of my Mom and Grandma getting drunk every other day of the week! Oh yeah the three of us live together and I hate it! They are working on getting wasted right now! Help! God, I feel like I want to drag them to an AA meeting! Please help me with this people. I would have my own place but I have to stay here cuz my Mom is emotionally fragile right now. I don't have my driver's license either because of more family drama! Peace....oh yeah and HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry Dude, drunks are drunks, I personally have no patience for drunks. I cut them out of my life quick. How old are you (over 18) Do you have your own means of living? If you can answer yes to those two question I suggest that you move out. Peace Dan
How is them getting drunk affecting you? I dont think a mom and a grandma would be that tough to live with unless there like walking into your room drunk, and insulting you to your face.
You don't understand, okay. They get really loud and obnoxious and I stay in my room trying to avoid them and no matter what I do I can't drown them out. Plus, man, sometimes my grandma does bang on my door and say some pretty gnarly things to me!
oh man! tie-dye dream, i got relatives that live in waco.(i live in san antonio.) i don't know if we might be related but, even if we are not... my family is one hell of a long line of drunks from way, way, way back. yeah, there is nothing, more "lovely," then to see your mom and grandma shitfaced drunk day in and day out! been there and, lived through it with both of mine... IT AIN'T NO GOD DAMN FUN AT ALL! mate, my heart goes out for you! forget about helping them. drunks are so damn fucking deep in denial! nothing wrong with them... your the god damn problem. drunks are masters at blaming and scapegoating others... nothing is ever wrong with them; it is always everyone else who is fuck-up and, never, every, themselves. this is what works though. find yourself a psychologist, who has trainning in dealing with drug abuse and addiction. next, get yourself to al-anon meetings. since your 18, you need to check into alateen meetings too. al-anon is listed in the telephone book or, online. the best course of action is to work with a psychologist and, to also go to al-anon and alateen meetings. if you are not able to afford a psychologist then, go to the meeting none the less! you will find out, your not alone in this world of shit your living in right now and, the people will help you out anyway they can. your life won't be perfect yet, it will go one hell of a lot easer day by day though. i'm pulling for you mate!
Thanks blackcat. Their drunk again, surprise, surprise! I'm getting a job soon so I can raise enough money to move out of here!
Good on you - getting a job will also get you out of the house enough that you won't see them too often, hopefully. I lived with my dad for 2 years (parents are divorced, grew up w/ my mom and a stepdad) after high school and I just decided that living free of rent wasn't worth putting up with his drunken ass multiple days a week. I honestly would not have minded him partying a little, like maybe once a week, but it was at least 4 to 5 nights per week that I couldn't count on any peace or quiet at home. I was in college at the time, and I decided I'd rather work more to support myself and at least be able to get full nights of sleep before classes the next morning and be able to concentrate on homework than have to work less just because I lived "at home."
Oh yeah, and drunks usually take something bad happening to them to make them want to change. Occasionally a family intervention can help, but most of the time they even reject that. Someone usually has to hit rock bottom to realize that they need help for their substance abuse/addiction problems and that it's not only hurting them, but also their relationships. But until that happens, they will usually just be in denial. It's good to have a healthy detachment from that. Moving out is the best thing you can do for yourself. It's hard to support yourself financially, but for me getting out of my dad's house was totally worth it. The nights of peace and quiet are worth having to work a lot, heh.
