Love (not hippy babble)

i need space too. and with my hubby being military i get a lot of that. but sometimes too much.

i feel like i've suffered to much lately, and that what got me thinking...a lot of that suffering is related to being in love with someone. i guess it must be the price you pay. it's certainly not the easy option.

i hope you find someone who can give you the space you need. :cheers2:

 

I know how you feel! I am a Navy wife with a degree and years and years put in at non-profits busting my ass. I got a high paying, slaried job when I moved here, quit and now work part time. i was resentful at first that I can;t have this great career, traveling and speaking and spending weeks in cool cities because I'll always have to pick up and move.
But, to be honest, now I love just working part-time and never want to go back to full-time. I even started my own buisness and am in boutiques alogn the west coast. Can you look at it as an opportunity to do somethign different, soemthign you've always dreamed of?
Being a military wife is like having another job because our husbands work so much, but just think of all the medical and retirement you'll have after he does his 20.

 

You know now that I think about it. The one time I have been in love it almost completely destroyed me.

I am beginning to wonder if there are many positive aspects to love.

 

it is a bit like that. the constant moves makes it so difficult to settle into a career. i want to work with the enviroment and am doing a degree at home, but just never seem to get an opportunity at the moment. i'm hoping we will able to settle in one spot soon, at least for long enough for me to get my degree and some work experience under my belt.

i'm used to the lifestyle to some extent now, but at the start used to feel resentful that my life was turned upside down, just from loving someone and still occasionally question if its worth the heartache. but it is, i'm sure. i hope.

 

Maybe it is the suffering associated with love that allows for the extreme happiness that comes with it.

Makes sense, in a way.

I hope I don't find anyone and end up alone and rich... but I'm sure I'll change my mind later in my life.

 

yeah, thats what i sometimes think and what i was thinking today at least and what i was getting at. it can really ruin a person.

was loving someone, even though it evenutally destroyed you, worth it for what it was, or would you have been better off never experiencing love at all?

 

Love is a two way street, my wife and I 22 years ago make a deal.

I do all I can to make her happy and she does the same for me.

Now about this "he is in the military" thing, if you have a problem with that it should be his problem also. If it isn't you have a problem.

Many times with my wonderful wife one of us had to bend for the love to continue to grow. Don't cry too much if he is more important than you and will not bend, that just may be the universe telling you something.

Peace
Dan

 

Alone and rich is not bad at all.

If I want a wife I can buy one.

But I am betting I will find love again.

 

Love will find you, more likely.

So will the mail-order wives.

 

I would have to say it was worth it. Even though her death totally blew my world into smithereens.

In truth I would pay a fortune to have had a few more years with her.

Wow, that is fucked up.

 

Yea, the mail order ones have been hitting me up for a while.

In Central America arranged marriages are common. I have had many opportunities for that.

But it is just not my thing.

 

It's not your thing because you don't want to be responsible for some farmer's daughter?

 

No, I suppose it seems like slavery to me. It does not feel right.

I want to be with someone that chooses to be with me.

 

Well, aww... that's nice

She'd probably wanna be with you though.

It'd better than the family shack.

 

I think Love is an action word. Too many times "love" runs dry. There needs to be something of substance to back an emotion. Feelings are not facts and will ebb and flow.

 

I know how that feels. If he treats you well and you love him, it's worth it. Plus, the sex is so good after they get back from debts and deployment . Last time it was like we were dating again.

 

What do you think that substance is?

What would back up the emotion?

 

love is very much a negative thing, in that i get really fucking tired of hearing about it.

 

It’s not complicated once you accept that "all love is unrequited"



Hotwater

 

Love is blind... being in love is the equivalent to being insane, IMO. If you say you are in love, you're saying you have lost your mind.

I think I would do a lot of things differently if I wasn't in love with someone... I think I'd be a happier person if I wasn't in love. For some reason I thrive on the feeling, so I don't think I do what makes me feel good... shitty excuse, and that's why I'm in my shitty ass situation.

It can be good for some people, and for others it can be bad.