I seriously fucking resent my older brother, because he's 28 and still leeching off my mother, not only that but she is sending him to texas, he doesn't work and just plays starwars galaxies all day... he's getting a fucking vacation from his vacation. to make it worse, is he's obese, smokes more then one thing on my moms expense and eats way more then his foodstamps.. he basically avoids any form of work, and won't look for a job. His daughter is being raised via shitloads of television and nintendo ds when he's not pawning her off on my mom, she's lonely, doesn't listen to him and has a little rich girl attitude because grandma spoils the shit out of her. my mom doesn't have shit for retirement money and she's going to end up in a "retirement home" aka old people deathcamp because he's going to die of a heart attack before he turns 35 and her alcoholic husband is drinking himself to an early grave and has absolutely no interest in the future, he lets me take his beer bottle in and I get approx 30$ a month. So guess who it's going to fall on? her intelligent youngest kid.. I was out of the house at 17. not that I don't love my mom, but you can just imagine just how I feel.
I hate to say this, but unless someone intervenes this situation will only get worse. Your brother sounds just like the brother of a good friend of mine. And now the guy is pushing 40 and still living at home, eating all the food at my friend's mom's house, generally being a leech. Their mom just deals with it out of guilt, but if I were her, I'd cut him off. That's the real, loving thing to do in the end as a parent - don't baby your children because it doesn't help them! I really do wish your family the best of luck, and hopefully your mom can get brave enough to see that her situation sucks and do something about it. Your brother thinks he's benefiting from this, but really he's not.
someone told me something not too long ago that's kinda helped put things in perspective for me. look down your street. every single house there has some sort of drama going on. some sort of problems. you're not alone. (he said it a lot better than i did--lol)
there is one hell of a lot that is being said here! first, your brother is obese, smokes, lives with his parents... that much there screams of mental illiness and family dysfunction! you state your brother is on food stamps. in most states, food stamps are only given out in your brothers' case, for confirmed medical/mental disablity. if your brother is on ssd and/or ssi from social security that, means he has been certified as unable to work. this a typical case of trigangulation and scapegoating. the roles in your family are quite clear. your brother is the scapegoat. his daughter is being set up to become the lost child. your father is the loser; and, your mother is the martyr. you my friend have been set up to be the replacement martyer after your mothers' death. you can bitch and moan about your brother and the rest of your family if you like. the fact is though, are you going to take on the role of the martyr and, throw your life away? you need to call child protective services in your state so, you can save your niece from the harm your family is doing to her!
I don't know how old you are, obviously over 17, so basically an adult. -you are NOT responsible for what goes on in your parent's house. It's not selfish to lead your own life and do you really think that your mother would welcome any interference. She's doing what she's doing and you need to do what you do. Move on man Stop beating yourself up!
