my aunt is a former child molestor!

when i was little she made my sisters and i play "games'" with her.if anybody asked her shed deny it.....anybody else have this problem?

 

no can't say i have, i mean i've been raped not molested. how are u dealing with this now?

 

i used to cry alot now i just enjoy life and try not to think about it. I tried to forgive her but i just cant

 

what were the games?

 

uuuummmmm.... sex games

 

Would you ever think about talking to her?

Straight up confront her and ask, you know... WTF?!

 

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Was one of them, "pet the kitty"?

 

hahahahahaha

"okay im gonna do a magic trick. i will make my finger disappear and then reappear and then disappear again"


"now pull down your pants"

 

Guys...uncool. Marysoul clearly expressed the fact that these things have had long-term negative effects; joking about her trauma rates right up there with the asshats who want to deny abortions to rape victims.

Marysoul, I can sympathize. My older sister sexually molested me twice when I was ten (she was twelve; I'm male). I can't say you'll get over it; that all depends on you. But getting over it doesn't mean you have to forgive her. It just means you make the conscious decision that you're not going to let it affect your life anymore, and then follow through with that decision. Simple, but FAR from easy; some scars go too deep to ever really heal.

The best advice I can give in dealing with her is this: Don't. Don't answer her calls, return her mail unopened, avoid her at family gatherings. If the rest of your family has decided to believe her over you, there is very little you can do to convince them short of turning up physical evidence (pictures and such). I know it's hard to have others think you're a liar when you're telling the perfect truth, but it's one of the unfortunate facts of life. Simply don't bring the subject up, and if someone brings it up in casual conversation, either excuse yourself or change the subject. The sad fact about a lot of abuse is that the victim has to essentially suffer alone.

Above all, remember this: You are not the sum of your aunt's abuse. Look into a mirror and start reciting everything you like about yourself and all the good things that have happened in your life. The scared little girl is still part of you, but she doesn't make up the whole unless you allow her to. Get involved with social activities with your friends; if you don't have much of a social life (like me), start conversations with strangers that you see doing something you enjoy. You can't change the past, but you can decide your future. You possess the key to unlocking that chain dragging you down; all you have to do is turn it.

(If you enjoy the "Saw" movies, it might prove cathartic to imagine digging the key out of your aunt's paralyzed-but-conscious body. )

 

seems like most families that have at least one creep in the family. don't feel like you're the lone ranger OP.

 

I'm sorry this happened to you, but it's probably best not to post it in an internet forum. There are always idiots who think it's funny to make stupid and insensitive "jokes" about it.

 

There is no such thing as a "former child molester" you either have molested a kid or you haven't. :biggrin:

 

exactly !!

 

yes, but it can also be very hard for people who've gone thru these things to talk to anyone irl about it.

 

Yes, that's very true. Still, if it's something that's causing problems in her life, I think she should talk to a professional about it.

 

:iagree: I believe that you can put everyone on earth into two groups: those who admit that they have dysfunctional relatives, and those who lie about their relatives.

 

where is she? she can child molest me =]

 

Ive never met a "former" child molester...these people dont change as their minds are sick

Sorry to hear your experience:grouphug:

 

first...the quoted post and several others here are not cool

marysoul..I have nothing to add here except i think your pretty cool and you must be strong not let this fucked up aunt ruin your 'soul'