I've got a bunch of problems at home. I posted a few. The main concern is that I think we are growing apart. we recently had a break and we didn't want to date anyone else during that time. So now we're moving back in with each other. I love the good times we have. But there are some problems I really need some advice with. I'm not very sexually intersted in him anymore. I WANT to be but I have to put a lot of effort into it. Is this normal now that we've been togethter for 2 years? Or are my feelings fading? Another problem is that i'm only 18 and I love him, have no desire to date anyone else but I wonder if I will regret not playing the field more. Taht's why we took a month break but everyone who asked me out, I wasn't interested at all. Am I too young to feel this way? I don't want to get married or anything yet but should I continue the realtionship even though it's this serious? Or is it possible to have a real serious relationship at my age? He also doesn't have a job. He had a good one but he got laid off and collects unemployment. He looks in the paper everyday and goes to a labor agency looking for a job but my town sucks economically. He tries so hard but there's just no luck. We can't move because I have a great job here. There's where the problem lies. He hates the fact that I have a job and he doesn't. He isn't mean to me or anything, but he's getting so depressed. His male ego is shot to pieces right now. He's really sensitive and his attitude starts fights a lot. I can only give him so much sympathy. I work 50 hours a week and I don't have the energy to baby him all night. I would send him out to work in fast food or something but he would make less than his unemployment check. All these things are really weighing on me. I'm sorry it was such a long post but I needed to explain the details. Any advice on any of these problems?
Hello! I am only 23 years old and I am in a relationship that I have been in for 8 years now (ever since I was 15) and basically he treated me like something he owned. I finally broke up with him after 2 beautiful children. He stalked me for the longest time and then b/c he was having his drug addicted child girlfriend around my children I took him back and married him.. So, sounds like I really don't need to give advice but I will try to help you anyways.. I think you should realize that it is possible to just grow apart from someone.. Move on and if it's meant to be it will be. Hope this helps!!
do you think it sounds like we are growing apart or just out of the honeymoon stage? I know it's possible to grow apart from someone. In fact everytime we fight I think "oh well we're just too young and growing apart" but we always make up. And it feels so good. He makes me feel great! He's really a great guy. I just don't know how I should feel
You could continue to try, but you really need to ask yourself,"Do I see myself growing old with him." It might make a world of difference for you.. Good guys are hard to come by I think.. But really that is not a good reason to stay with him.. As far as the whole "regretting not playing the field" then obviously you've thought about it and I think that people are entitled to have the feeling of wanting space.. Even if you break up and you never date anyone at least you will know what you want b/c you'll be able to see if you really want him in your life as your "one and only." Just don't feel bad about it.. Do what you want b/c you never know what will happen tomorrow!!
What Michael says is true. Lasting relationships take a lot of work, on both sides. You have to overlook a lot of faults and you have to forgive a lot of hurts. You have to hold on to the flame and not let it burn out-remembering why you love the other person. But, love isn't all work. If you are finding that it is too much work, then perhaps he isn't the right one for you.
