I Just Don't Understand

What does it mean when he tells you he hasn't shut the book on our 'relationship' but he doesn't want to get back together because he doesn't see it working out?

I have no idea what that mean... I'd say he means it's not going to ever go anywhere, but when I talk about moving on he seems offended.

I dunno what to think... to be honest.

 

He wants the sex but nothing else.

 

Probably what Carlfloydfan said.

Or else he's stupid and confused like the rest of us, and maybe doesn't want to let go.

He's got some growing up to do.

Tell him he can't have it both ways. Be sure to make it clear that this is not just you being psychotic about stuff... this is the way things work. He's either in or out.

 

He want's to use you as a big piece of meat with a pussy attached, duh! You know, something he can stick his dick into and then leave right after.

 

i think it means you should go out on a date with someone or a few someones and see how he likes that....

you shouldnt have to sit around and wait for him, light a fire under his ass to make up his mind one way or another...

 

Life is a tricky game and the losers, can always play again, while the winners wish to stay where they are only to be swept away by change. Thats my advice apply it to what it means.

 

Exactly right.

 

I'd hate to think that's the case...

I know one time he thought I was messing around with a friend of mine, and he got really pissed off. that's why I'm so confused....

All he has said about things is whatever I do, he'll follow my lead, so I guess if I start sleeping with other people, that's his intentions too, I don't understand all of it.

A few weeks ago we got into a big fight he told me he loved me, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't in that type of way, more of 'you're my friend and I don't want shit like this to happen between us' type of way.

 

Sounds to me like he just isn't sure what he wants right now, but it also sounds to me like he does care about you and doesn't want to lose you, which is why he said he hasn't shut the book on your relationship with him.

Also, if he's going through some things within himself, maybe he needs to work on that before he can truly work on a relationship?

{{{Hugs}}}

 

he has not shut the book on you , but does not want you back.
translated=
i want some one else, but you will do, if nothing else is on offer.
love has blinded you to what he is actually saying.
forget about him, and move on, you deserve better.

 

X2

and the pussy-meat thing as well.

 

This usually comes from a selfish asswipe.

A man or a woman, that wants you to stick around on the side in case their next relationship doesn't work out.

HA, bail.

 

I just don't know... if that's the case why wouldn't he just say that. He's constantly flirting with girls on the internet, but if he thinks I'm doing the same he tries to make me feel guilty... to be honest, I only started to have my own flirt because it made me feel really insecure and 'unwanted'... you know.

Now he's got this other shit going on that I'm fucking shitty about... but it's cool. If that's what he wants, so be it, you know what I mean?

 

Welcome to the world of men. He displays jealousy because it's a territorial thing. We are animals, after all (women not excluded). Take our advice because I'm sure most of us men have done it in our lives at some point in time.

 

Interresting.

I dunno.

I'm going to have to come up with some type of test... heh.

 

I had an ex who acted like that...
All he really wanted was sex.

 

why?

and why would you want to be with some, who does not want to be with you?, i dont think it really matters what any one, on here tells you, about him, because the truth hurts to much to think about for you .which is why
out of all the advice from people on here you chose this one to answer this quote=

Quote:
Originally Posted by hippychickmommy
Sounds to me like he just isn't sure what he wants right now, but it also sounds to me like he does care about you and doesn't want to lose you, which is why he said he hasn't shut the book on your relationship with him.

Also, if he's going through some things within himself, maybe he needs to work on that before he can truly work on a relationship?

{{{Hugs}}}

why answer this= because the other advice is closer to the truth and to painfull to think about, move on, and find some one else, your only hurting your self more, by holding on to some one who does not feel the same way about you, as you do about them.

 

I wouldn't bother guessing at this. I would explain to him how his comment contradicts itself and that he can either clear this up with a more definitive answer... or allow you to remain confused and take his chances with whatever next step you may take in the midst of your uncertainty.

 

The question I have is why YOU havent shut the book on him. Its up to you how much bullshit you put up with.
You are in this situation because you let him.

 

Women do that naturally, without even realizing it.