I am not angry or hateful

Lately, I've been trying to be mindful... to really think before I say something ... not to possibly react in a way that could hurt someone else. I'm trying hard to come from a place of love, to be positive and to take risks... good healthy risks. It's working!!

One thing that I miss is my drier sense of humor.

I really feel that it has changed me and I'm finally on to a new chapter of my life!

Can anyone else relate to this? What kinds of things did you to to keep up the momentum of positivity, maybe it's just spirituality, or oneness???

:cheers2:

 

I have been really working on being mindful myself. It has slowly been coming out this past year.

My own life has chapters opening that long ago I would have dismissed as impossible.

But I still have hate and anger within me. I know it is there. It is a part of me.

However I think I am taking slow steps to heal what is within me.

 

positive outlooks/outcomes build from having integrity.

i try to do the right thing and usually that makes me feel OK with others and my environment. it builds the momentum and soon you can't be stopped.

imo

 

I have anger. I also have hatred. but my hatred is for things larger than myself, the hatred of concepts.

they are part of me, and, honestly? I feel they make me better

the hatred of injustice is a good thing.

anger at choices people make that I understand, but are still, clearly insane.

I feel they are useful traits, and I feel embracing them is more honest with myself.

not everyone has these kinds of traits, and so it is not delusion to say you do not have them within you, for me, it would be.

 

anger lets you know there is a problem. anger is great.

 

a good balance would probably be best, as with most things.

i'm just naturally not all that positive a person, basing most things in reality tends to lead to an inevitably sombre outlook on life.

 

Allow me to go New Age on y'alls for a minute...
Can people just be without defining themselves as a "happy person" or an "angry person"? It really helps to separate yourself from theses things and just see them as states of mind that you feel sometimes and others not.
Some people would call me a "happy person," others a "cynical person" depending on when they caught me. It doesn't mean I'm bipolar. It means I have feelings and then they go away. That's the human condition. There are no "happy people" and there are no "angry people". There are people that feel and some identify too much with their feelings, which can be dangerous.
I know a guy who doesn't feel right when he's happy because he identifies himself as a cynical person. I had a friend in high school who didn't feel right being happy because she was depressed and saw herself as a monster. Because they couldn't let go of these negative emotions and felt they were like "Home base" because they were just "negative people", the girl attempted suicide a few times, and the guy persists in just generally embracing miserableness (not a word...). The girl eventually got better when she decided she was entitled to being happy sometimes too. The guy is 21 and continues writing dark bullshit rants on deviantArt. I try to help him when I can muster the patience...

 

You are not being true to yourself.

This will backfire.

 

I agree. Positivity is just as bad as negativity. But congratulations!

 

Interesting thanks for sharing.

I went to a see a speaker last week Dr Gabor Mate
He talked about how the memory impressions of our early relationships/attachment to our caregivers basically hardwire the emotional (and physiological) responses we have to our environment. The people who influenced us the first 2 or 3 years before we have developed true memory have influenced us on how we see the world and feel within it. I really agree that's where the anger, fear of abandonment, or feelings of worthlessness come from. Those feelings that just creep up out of nowhere aren't even ours, they are responses to all kinds of random stimuli.

No wonder why we so easily feel shitty and have to work so hard to feel good. I know I do.

 

hm i think i couldnt agree with you more. i like the way you put it

 

I also agree.


I'm sure there is an eastern religion that spells it all out somewhere.
It's also part of the self fullfilling prophecy thing, or Karma... or Ki...

or Good Vibes.
mannnnnnnnnnnn! :sifone:

 

A very good friend of mine
Told me something the other day
I'd like to pass it in to you
Cause I believe what he said to be true
He said

We're here for a good time
Not a long time (not a long time)
So have a good time
The sun can't shine every day

And the sun is shinin'
In this rainy city
And the sun is shinin'
Oooooh, isn't it a pity
And every year, has it's share of tears
And every now and then it's gotta rain


Smith/McGuire 1977 MCA Records Ltd.

 

profound

 

Trooper. LoL LuLu's House band. Well, them and April Wine

 

One thing I particularly noticed about being mindful is that it is really lonely because you notice, really notice (compared to the quiet stillness that you're only just beginning to enter into) that most people are incredibly stupid and emotionally out of control. It was at that point that I decided to become hateful again. Apparently if you're persistent and you continue to observe your thoughts, you feel compassionate towards the idiots. I am aiming for this on my next journey towards Zen.

 

that's a good point my friend. I jsut got a good dose of that reality when I visited my parents and my dad yelled at me to pour killex on my whole garden.

I left and got high.

 

That's where compassion help.

 

I love April Wine BTW... My sister in law fainted during weeping widow + 32 degrees plus humidity all day, magic mushrooms, beer ... we had to drag her into a vacant lot beside a Dairy Queen

I loved 1991