Hello everyone, It seems like human beings are never happy with what they have. If for example you have an amazing boyfriend/girlfriend you rarely see how amazing they are. But as sonn as they no longer are with you, you begin to regret. I would like to know why do we tend to take things for granted? Is there a way to enjoy what we have without thinking about what we don't have? Thank you.
Man , I have found this out. My g/f had to leave for insurance reasons. I never thought I would miss her this much! We'er gonna be apart till beginning of november. And that blows! I do have a better insight into how much our relatoinship means to us both.
Like I said in your other thread, I think awareness of finiteness is important in appreciating what we have.
What is different now than what has been the norm of the past, is that communication with the world is so much easier thanks to cell phones and the internet. This means it's easier to find other things/people. We're living in a society that teaches us "there's always something better out there" so instead of enjoying what we have, we're always looking for the next best thing because we've been warped into believing that you can't be happy with what you have, that you deserve more, that there's something else out there. Of course there is, there always has been, but there isn't enough propaganda out there teaching society as a whole that what we end up with can be cherished and enjoyed. It's also human nature to want what we don't have, but there's truth to the old saying "the grass isn't greener on the other side". No one pays attention to that anymore. It's just the direction our society has been heading.
Because understanding that everything ends, sooner rather than later, enables us to appreciate what we have while we have it. There's no sense of importance or attachment to anything, just joy and happiness.
Nothing lasts. Everything changes, and ends. I'm not sure what you mean by the world being based on oppositions, but I'm inclined to disagree. I state again, the realization that everything ends allows us to see that nothing is really that important, and thus enables us to live freely in joy.
yes there is a way! However, it involves potential feelings of envy. You have to share yourself and your partner. You have to give each other freedom, even if it means allowing each other to date people on the side(doesn't mean you have to have sex). I am not exactly sure why, but we like it when our partner experiences other intimacy, even if it minimal as a dance, a hug, a few smiles and few kisses. Also, I dont believe we are meant to be with one person only and it doesnt mean you have to fuck every person you see. Multiple partners, with heartfelt relationships is possible - look up - polyamory.
