Hurt Feelings

and my speling is impekable.

 

Depends, someone I don't know really can't hurt me too bad unless it's a cop otherwise I would just ignore it or think it through. You can't please everyone.

 

And that's why we luv you. Or tolerate you.

 

mine iz two.

 

Oh brother, if anyone can access the forum anytime, too bad, stop being a cry baby:nopity:

 

i cry i feel depressed and then i get over it.
but if somebody can hurt my feeling i must care a lot about this person, otherwise it is not possible to hurt me.

 

I won't let some schmuck/**** hurt my feelings. I got better things to do than take offense over bullshit.

 

If it was on purpose I don't really give a shit. I don't care what they think

If it was on accident......

I mope around a bit and feel worthless for a few seconds.

Or if it was someone who I cared about.......

I feel really betrayed, and maybe a lil sick. Kind of like they've been lying about our relationship (whatever kind of relationship that might be).

Then I weigh it up (probably more subconsciously).

Does it really matter?
Is it something I can change?
Why should I be upset about this?

And usually I'm able to move on quite quickly

 

Your statement takes on a defensive tone after reviewing your sig.

 

OK.

atriot:

 

I stab them until I'm not mad anymore.

 

i ignore it, i guess it's easier done than said to others when you're on antidepressants.

 

good answer!

 

I tell them and then I tell them what I need to feel better or how much time I need to get over it. That way, I feel better for getting it out and they know I am genuinley hurt and not trying to hold a grudge by not talking.
Yesterday I had a kid tell me he hated me and we never have any fun. This is the first time this has happened to me in my entire career (with the little ones, I got it from teenagers all the time). I understand he's a kid and didn't get any sleep teh night before, had a bad day in school and his sister was doing something fun during our session, but it still hurts after you've been working with a child 4 hours a week for over a year.
I told him I needed 5 minutes of quiiet time and then an elaboration on how he felt with no hurtful language. He was so shocked I wasn't crying and bawling like when he says that shit to his mom.
I try to do the same thing with adults to make it clear it's about what I need to feel better, not about punishing the person who hurt my feelings.
I mostly just need a few minutes of quiet time and an apology. i am easy.

 

On a seperate note, if someone I feel is 'unworthy' hurts my feelings, I just get pissed. Like seriously, who the fuck do you think you are, GOD? Go back to your hole.

 

sam gets defensive and accusatory when his feelings are hurt...

 

Stop being so mean !





Also, get a sense of humor, a penis and stop necroposting.

 

You can't hurt an open wound.

 

You can always put salt on it.

 

I generally don't feel hurt by the things people say about me because often the things people say are true, or so outrageously stupid that it makes the other person look bad. That isn't completely true, sometimes I feel like my honour is hurt, so I will argue relentlessly with the person until they either apologise or tell me to shut up.

When people are volatile, difficult, stubborn or naggy, I get angry. How I react depends on a lot of things. Sometimes I'll completely ignore the person until they calm down and then walk up to them later and calmly tell them never to speak to me like that again. Sometimes I'll apologize for my part of the incident just to prevent further trouble. Other times I do the wrong thing - I'll ignore them for as long as I can but then get so mad that I burst out in a fit of swearing, or I'll stay as calm as possible but say really grating, hurtful things. It all depends how well I can control myself.