Do you find things get awkward with dudes post-gay?

Like with straight dudes...

like they feel all awkward just doing dude things like hanging out... or being alone in a room together... or just whatever

 

id say it verys person to person just like any other peoples we arnt strange aliens, we just find guys more sexualy apealing than girls

 

I know im not a guy, but my guy friend just came out to everyone a few days ago and things are the same as always. I feel like if you already have a pre existing relationship with another guy as far as friends go, things shouldnt be any different. But then again im not a guy or gay so im not sure if that helps.

 

I find it can be a bit awkward for them. I dont have an issue with it, but some of the people I used to hang out with seem to have, as we no longer hang out, ha. People that actually enjoyed hanging out to begin with seem to still hang out with no real issues. Depends on the person and situation i guess.

 

Closet bisexuals are the worst for it,
That's just my experience.

 

i personally think that strait men that feel awkward around gay men are full of themselves. i mean honestly. a guy can hang in a room with another woman and not feel anything... what the fuck makes them think that they are so AMAZING that a gay guy would want them. i don't know if that makes sense. but in strait situations. girls call that a guy with an over inflated ego if he acts like every chick who sees him wants him. which honestly is never the case. so i think ppl should grow the fuck up!

 

but the closet can be so warm and comfy

 

I'm Sure They Can Be.

Until One Day.

When You Least Expect It.

Someone Rips Your Closet Door Wide Open.

In Front Of The Whole World.

And Exposes You For Who, And What, You Really Are...



Cheers Glen.

 

Are you trying to say.

That gay people will fiercely yank.

Unsuspecting closeted boys out into the open.

So that they have something new to play with.

 

oh.. those are not just straight guys

i'm awkward around my guy friends (they look funny, and the winking) gives me goosebumps (and not the pretty ones) :/

 

I second that

 

Ditto, closet gay/bisexual people always seem to idolize the close gay friend, be it me on occasion. Because they are not part of the scene, they will feel a connection with seldom opportunities they can encounter. This can sometimes make things a little intense.

 

Things weren't awkward at all when I told people I was gay, even with the straightest guys I knew.
The ones i generally hang out with now don't give a crap either, they don't think anything of it so I'm still a part of the "banter" that goes on.

So no, things weren't awkward with me, at least not from the guys...(I think I may possibly have made one of them pull his own sexuality into question at a party, but I won't go into that).
A few of the girls I knew, however, did seem to get more distant from me. These aren't the girls I knew and have known for ages, but generally the ones I had met shortly before coming out. Guess they thought they had a chance and when they realised they didn't then they backed down...

I don't know whether to find it flattering or not when girls who don't know I'm gay flirt with me. I know it can get awkward though...

 

I don't really look gay and I don't believe that it's something I need to establish immediately with people when I meet them

So it can happen that friendships develop with straight men and inevitably the day of reckoning comes when you actually have to say, "Look mate, I'm gay"

Almost all of them have said words to the effect "I'm cool with that"

 

I think I just threw up.

 

I've only told 2 people that I'm bi, and the reason I told them only is because I knew they wouldn't treat me any differently. I'm very straight acting (moreso than a lot of my straight friends) and they say that they always forget that I'm bi until I say something or something reminds them.

so with them, no it's not awkward at all, in fact they seem pretty fascinated haha.

 

This is exactly the same for me.

 

how does it work out for you? for the time being at least, telling those 2 people about it lifted a huge weight off of me: they are the people i care about most, so i feel, at least right now, that theyre the only ones that need to know.

it's pretty satisfying for me.

 

Yup, as you said. I actually felt the wieght lifted off my chest when I told him/her. They were a tad shocked at first but after a few minutes they spoke again, asked a few questions and then it was just normal again.

Quite a good first 2 to come out to. I knew they had no problems or religious beliefs so I knew they'd be fine with it. If anything the guy makes more gay jokes than before (just that fooling around and acting gay that everyone seems to be doing these days). My girlfriend tried to get my to analyse what she was wearing and asked me to go shopping with her until I told her she'll need to get a different gay friend for that. Now it's all back to normal and a huge relief I can act like I am and not contain anything. You wouldn't be able to tell I'm Bi by looking at me, but if I'm on the bus with just those two they quite loudly ask me to analyse guys.

 

Actually I do find it quite fun to expose the closeted ones

I find it increasingly easy to spot them to...