Okay. so i've been with my boyfriend dana now for 2 years.he's been 16 for like 4 months now and he doesn't have a job and his parents are supposed to buy him a car when he gets one. this is really starting to bug me. he always complains about how no one is hiring right now so he can't get a job, but he never really goes out to get applications. he borrows his parents car, but has to fill it up with gas when he uses it, but he always complains that he has no money and wants to bum a few bucks off of me every once in awhile. it annoys the hell out of me that it's been four months now and he's only put in like a dozen applications. and anytime i ask him if he's gone out to look for a job, he gets all offended like i'm just being a bitch to him. i love him so much and i really do want to spend the rest of my life with him (and don't be all like "you're too young to want to spend forever with him") but i just feel like he's going to be a loser. and i don't want to spend the rest of my life with a loser. and i don't want to waste my time with one. so i guess what i'm asking is how do i get him to either grow up and get a job or quit doing things that cost money that he can't afford to spend? or am i just supposed to love him for who he is now and realize that he won't ever change? thanks for any possible advice.
Yep, a loser. And you ARE too young to know what you really want in that department... sorry, kid, but it's the truth.
Just because he is a little lazy right now does not mean he always will be. It seems that you only want him to get a car so that he can drive you around. Do you have a job? If not, get one before you complain about his lack of motivation. If you really love someone you should accept them, flaws and all. Maybe you dont love him.
i agree. if you have a job you are aloowed to bitch but if you dont, you shouldt talk to him about it. also you are too young.
yes, i have a job and a car that i bought myself with my own money, not given to me by my parents, thank you very much.
listen to me very carefully please. You described exactly a relationship i had when I was 16. Dated for two years, I had no job, got defensive, borrowed money off my gf. Babe I'm sorry but the poor fella is a loser for the time being. You absolutly CANNOT force someone to grow up. It is a natural thing in life they have to do at their own pace nor do you have the right to make him. I didn't start 'going' somewhere until I was 20. And that gf I had when I was 16 and I was your bf your describing...shes now through college and LONG LONG LONG gone out of my life. Save yourself the heartache and the stress, it will hurt but he's not going to change, sorry dear. Peace and Love
