but I'm afraid of upping my list. I know you guys are really liberal and may have different opinions that aren't necessarily representative of people as a whole, and frankly I think I'm pretty liberal too, but I'm afraid that sleeping with everyone I want to sleep with will affect my future relationships negatively. I'm 18 and have only slept with 3 guys (2 relationships, one random) and I've otherwise hooked up with a fairly large amount of people...oral with 6? Made out with over 15. Anyway well most people that don't know me don't perceive me as a slut but some people do. I don't look like one at all because I dress a little on the conservative side compared to other girls and don't give off the dumb slut vibe. I really want to have sex with this guy I've hooked up with several times but we don't even talk outside of hooking up, but he's so goddamn hot. I don't even care that we don't talk because I want to fuck him so badly and I know it would be good. The only thing stopping me is the fear that once I want to be in a serious relationship, my "list" will stop guys from wanting to be serious with me. Would you be okay having a relationship with a girl like me if you were an average 18-19 year old male? Honestly I just hook up because I'm horny and I love sex/physical things. Not to fill any void or insecurity.
Shit man. Enjoy your sexuality.Don't get pregnant and don't get any diseases. Keep your list confidential. Your future boyfriends do not need to know all that shit.
The more experienced a woman is, the hotter she appears in my eyes. I can't stand prudes. I would not want to have sex with you now; maybe after a few more of those hook ups. :biggrin:
Never tell your future boyfriends anything about your sexual past, even if you eventually get married. "More mystery, less history" is a phrase that comes to mind. If you think that you will regret it (for yourself, no one else) than don't do it. Otherwise, see if he's interested.
Yeah it's really shady to not tell someone about your sexual history...I would want to know his and I'd tell him mine. It's just a matter of whether or not it would be off-putting And he's definitely interested because last time we hooked up, he asked me if I want to have sex and I didn't really know. He's not interested in me, though.
Hey Baby ..I am a little bit older..in my mid 30's and when you get here you will find out that guys don't much care what happened in your teens or twenties. Now if your goal in life is to find a guy and do the family thing then I would hold off ballin just any guy because he is hot. But if your plan is to be your own woman, make your own way in life, and if you find a guy who really does fit you, then get married,then I would say go ahead and get laid. I would suggest doing that, becoming your own woman depend on no man, doing your own thing ,as then you will become more descriminating. You will find that, when you get here that hot is relative because a hot bod with no brains or personality sucks big time. Nothing worse than having sex with this beautiful woman who is an intellectual dead head. ha ha This was probably no help to you but wtf can I say, I just can't resist a girl with opionons and intellect.
Just do you, hon. If you're feeling a dude, go for him. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks of you. Your opinion of yourself is what matters the most.
Don't worry about your "list". Sex isn't holy, sacred, or dirty. Be careful with regards to disease and such, and if you personally don't think it's okay to have sex with a lot of people, then don't. But do so out of your own volition, not because you assume it will make you look slutty in the eyes of a future spouse. Personally, a girl's sexual past doesn't bother me unless she's been with an excessive amount of people (ie 100+) but I prefer to keep those things in the dark, unless the girl is insistant we don't. I don't think anything good comes from being familiar with your partner's "list," at least it didn't when me and my ex exchanged this information when I was 20.
How are guys going to know about your "list"? If you live in a very small town, this could be a real problem. If you don't, then you shouldn't worry. With future boyfriends, you can be honest about being sexually experienced without giving statistics and details that should be reserved for serious relationships.
Enjoy yourself - if you have enough fun, you'll forget where your "list" is, LOL! No one is keeping score, try not to limit your freedom with unnecessary lists
It wouldn't bother me. In fact, it seems that a lot of women I know had many, many lovers when they were younger. Then I wonder where I was while all that was going on. But please, be truthful with future lovers about your sexual past. It is not only about intimacy, that is, being open about who you are, but it is also a matter of safety.
