So many people decived by love.

The modern day perception of love is completely wrong.
people are tricked by love.
people are fooled by love.
people think love is an emotion.
and the same people who think love is an emotion,
are the ones who end up with a broken heart.
Ive learned, and felt.

Love is not an emotion.
But love is a sense.

you get the sense of being loved.

When someone holds you in there arms and tells u that they care about you, theres nothing that can compare to that feeling. It is one of the most amazing feelings on this earth. This gives you the sense of being loved.

To love and be love is one of the greatest experances of being human.
but also, is the biggest downfall of human.

This whole common trend picked up from this europian Christan culture of "marriage" is one of the most unnatural and craziest things in the entire world. The idea of being with the same human for the rest of your life is very unnatural. Just look at the ridiculous amount of devoice rates, just showing you how unnatural it is. Though raised in a society where they apply the values of this upon people and. View yourself as the animal you are. Your nothing more then a creature of the earth, just you happen to be apart of the dominate race of creatures on this planet. But just because your human, dosent mean your still not an animal. Just because you have been civilized, with rules, morals, and standards.

Now its not like i know this from first hand, but im pretty sure that theres no animals that try to spend its life with the same animal. Because they just naturally mate and move on.

The same should be with humans.

As humans, we naturally want to find someone to mate with.
but as we find ourself a partner, we start to experience this amazing feeling. Love. this sense that you never want to go away. Its just the best feeling ever, you feel like you are on top of the world. And the person who gives you that feeling is the one u choose to mate with. and you never want to loose this amazing feeling. so humans stay with the same mate Thus, creating relationships. An attempt to stay with the same person for a ridiculously large amount of time. because they want that feeling to be there everyday and night. Taking love to far. The longer your with this person, the stronger the feeling it is. but like it has been for millions and millions of years. Time moves on. And with time, comes change. And with change comes the differences between people. thus, ending your supply of love that you have had daily for a very long time, ending in heartbreak. This happens to many of us through out our lives. and its a horrible experience. its the worst feeling in the entire world. and nothing can make it feel better.

but it can be easily avoided!

Go with the natural flow of it all. Just tune in. Dont be fooled by all these silly humans names for things. I mean first off it just tells u how wrong they are by trying to give love a name thats straight up wrong.

LOVE has no name.
NEVER name your love.
do not over complicate it.
love is such a simple thing.
its like breathing air.
its always there, its just if we choose to notice it.
Theres times we notice it stronger then others.

but people cant you feel it?! LOVE IS EVERYWHERE!

But as a human, this is just my perception of the subject, the way that makes the most sense to me. Just another opinion. and views may alter and differ from person to person. agree or disagree. its just what makes most sense to me. ya digg.

just looking at things naturally.

 

I agree that love is not an emotion.
I completely disagree with you on what love is.
Love is a bond.

 

Thanks for writing this down floes. I thought a lot about what you said and I think you're right. I never got why people want one love lasting a lifetime. I believe it's normal that a love comes and goes just like everything else. Love for a particular person comes and goes. Love itself never goes. It's just always there. Everywhere.

 

Parrots mate for life, and they live a long time. A few other animals do that, but not many.

Love happens whenever it happens, and lasts for however long it lasts. It may last your whole life, or it may not. It doesn't matter what you expect it to do. You just have to go with the flow.

 

I don't totally agree. There are things that you can do to increase the chances of a relationship lasting a lifetime. It matters how much cooperation you get from your partner, but you rarely get more out of a relationship than you put into it. Look for long and happy marriages, and you will find couples who put a high priority on making their relationship good.

 

Has anyone read Erich Fromm's book on love called "the Art of Loving"?

Here's a wiki quote about it: Because modern man is alienated from himself, from his fellow men, and from nature, we seek refuge from our aloneness in the concepts of love and marriage (pp. 79-81). However, psychologist and social philosopher, Erich Fromm (1900-1980), observes that real love "is not a sentiment which can be easily indulged in by anyone." It is only through developing one's total personality to the capacity of loving one's neighbor with "true humility, courage, faith and discipline" that one attains the capacity to experience real love. This should be considered a rare achievement (p. vii). The active character of true love, Fromm observes, involves the basic elements of care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge (p. 24).


it's a great book. And he doesn't think it's an emotion either ;D

peace.

 

even though I have had my heart broken, stepped all over and ripped into a billion pieces it always seems to find it's way back together...
I truly believe in love, being with that one person for the rest of your life..
I know I found mine and I know it's going to take hard work to keep us together.. but we both want to and that's all you need..

 

Interesting thread. When I think about love, I always come back to this ...

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

 

Love is complicated. Love is a necessity. Love is pain. Love is Joy. Love is everywhere and no where at the same time. Love can be an action, love can be an emotion, love can be given, love can be felt. Love is a thing without a price. Love is above all amazing.

 

Love is a feeling that you get when you have found an agreement with a person. This is why sex is such a love producing thing - it shows two people that they have an agreement after all and a very amazing one indeed. Once your agreements can no longer be made in all you are, then love becomes a sacrifice. This is when I got with the flow and cut my losses becaue love is everywhere, even inside of change itself and inside of constancy.

 

everything that this person wrote on the original post is EXACTLY what my views are on all of it. marriage, relationships, they're all mental contructs.

i haven't even taken the time to read anyone else's opinions (but i will)

floes, it's SOOOOOOO fucking refreshing to see that someone else sees things the way i see them as far as LOVE is concerned.

god damn what a perfect fucking post.

 

only thing i would add is that Love itself is not an emotion but wouldn't you all agree that when it happens it gives off very strong emotions? i suppose they are a result of love, rather than the love itself?

i don't know if i'll ever be the kind of guy to "work really hard on maintaining a long, healthy relationship through hard work and discipline." seems to ruin the spirit of things. but perhaps at the end of the day i'll be the lonely one.

i'm just too spontaneous for working really hard at some good american values such as marriage. "puke"

 

a quick google sear h reveals a list of animals that mate for life...

Gibbon apes, wolves, termites, coyotes, barn owls, beavers, bald eagles, golden eagles, condors, swans, brolga cranes, French angel fish, sandhill cranes, pigeons, prions (a seabird), red-tailed hawks, anglerfish, ospreys, prairie voles (a rodent), and black vultures

 

I'm always amused by that argument.

So termites mate for life do they? and thus so I should?

 

I consider it only to be a counter to the often-quoted but incorrect statement that all other animals are promiscuous, implying that humans should be also. In fact, either approach to sex works in the animal kingdom, and both approaches have been made to work in human society.

Termites are a laughable example of monogamy. There is only one queen per colony.

 

Sounds good to me.

 

actually people "pretend" their in love -when there really not. like girls who only like a guy cuz of his money--will pretend they love him when its "being spoiled " that they really love

 

Anybody who plays that game will eventually get what they deserve.

 

People shall know to differ love from obsession.
For it is not love that makes one blind, but the impatience to fall in love.
I experienced all that. I thought I had so much to loose. But I'm glad for all my mistakes became just lesions that prepared me for the true love.
When sadness struck my brokened heart, I had no idea that the time will come when I would consider that a GOOD thing that appeared as bad. For if I won't fall, I would be loving the wrong person, and would lose the true one.

Sometimes we feel lonely and need to love and be loved. Its like an emptiness we can't bare. When that had happens, we may ran out of patience, and target a person whose subject in out head will be filled with things we like to be true. Unaware, we lie to ourselves, we project the things we have or want he or she to have, and believe we know him or her. It may take short time to think we're in love. After that, many things will start go wrong.

Read about "obsessive love" for more details.

My message is that, patience is the right path to love. And it is good to fail, you will learn from your mistakes, you would strengthen your patience and the ability to recognize the true love.

You should be glad when you can differ love from obsession. For the true love feel same like that which is buried in your regretion.

 

Oh please. Men like you don't have enough money to make anyone "pretend to love you". You must have really had bad experiences with women to have the attitude you show in this and other posts of yours.