Do you tell your boyfriends about your exs?

Hey,
I just wanted to know.

 

Yep. My boyfriend has met two of my exes, actually. He thinks they're both tools Which is good, because they kinda are.

Wonder if that makes him a tool?

 

It all depends on you new bf. Some, like me, want to know everything. Not all at once, but bits and pieces as we go along. I am a huge believer in openness and honesty. Nothing hidden. If I ask her a question I expect a full complete honest answer. That's all.

 

Yes, he is like that!
And I'm ok with telling him everything.
He tells me everything as well.

 

I don't want to know much about my girls' relationship/sexual past unless they insist on sharing. And I'd rather not share too much of my own.
It is not deceitful to keep parts of your history and personality to yourself.

Past partners are unimportant. What matters is now.

 

I kind of go with what feels ok depending on the partner. The girl I'm dating now, it was essential to talk about that because I'm way more experienced than she is.

 

i agree

 

Past relationships have a way of coming back to create problems in the present. If a gal has unresolved issues concerning a previous lover, then help her work through them.

One of the marks of a successful relationship is when each partner can accept without criticism the numbers of previous fuck-partners the other has had. I have even found it exciting to hear my wife tell about some of her previous lovers. It's almost like I was there watching them fuck her.

 

He knows enough, if it comes up why not. He knows a lot more than I probably know because we were friends for a while before we started goin out.

 

So I don't mind chatting about the exes every so often...it leads to good conversation.

But my recent girl (for the first couple weeks) would not shut up about them! She is pretty bad with long term/serious boy friends (me) so she just kept ranting about them even though I told her it was uncomfortable for me.

She also thought it would be easier for me to understand what she likes (in the bedroom) if she told me exactly how her exes used to do it...yeaaah no.

Story [GRAPHIC]: I was having sex with her on her bathroom sink, and I pulled out quickly (I like how it feels, ya know) and she was like "Do that again! I loved when John would do that to me when he was fingering me!!"

Needless to say, I was pretty upset and I didn't do anything with her for a while.

She had good intentions though, she just didn't know any better.

Point being: Don't go too in depth...but it's cool every so often.

 

to be honest, i wish my gf did not tell me about her past.

she is a nice girl and all, but i have serious issues with thinking about people she has been with.

and as such i dont think i can commit to this girl, now knowing how many people she has been with. 10-15

so no, dont tell the hole truth, just some.
she has a kid too. but its all just too much.

if she had lied to me, and i didnt have these terible constant imaginations and shit it would prob be ok.