Ok, what if he really is too big?

Discussion in 'Women's Forum' started by drumminmama, Jun 13, 2009.

  1. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    how do you work with a partner who is too big, meaning the next day you are far too sore? (cervix bruising, what I've always called micro-tears which isn't a tear per se but obvious stretching at the vaginal opening.
    (the night was, ah, great, but the awareness of a size difference was brought up...fast. there were not obvious lube issues, and the event was not planned or expected.)
    I may have given birth once, but kid is a legal adult this year. I don't think I want to go for that level of stretching, KWIM?

    eta, I can get microtears with smaller men.
     
  2. sarahrei

    sarahrei ~Lover~

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    I would add extra lube just to help and take it really sore. My FH is huge, and I find that if he rushes it I usually tear, but the slower he takes it the better I am.
     
  3. caliente

    caliente Senior Member

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    Interesting problem. All I can think of is doing lots of foreplay and making sure you're really aroused before he enters you, but you already know that. You can change positions to avoid hitting your cervix, but you already know that too.
     
  4. crosewood

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    yes, lube seems to be the best solution here. it's not like you can ask him to grow smaller right :)
     
  5. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    I jokingly suggested that. he asked how, exactly I planned to just toss it in a dryer. :)
    second experience slightly better. but yep, I think I need to give up on all natural and get some lube.
     
  6. Tisha Mc

    Tisha Mc Banned

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    My friend had this problem. She asked her gyno why she had to pee all of a sudden during sex and she said that she was getting a weird pressure. The gyno said that he was hitting the bladder and to never let him go. I don't know if she ever did anything about it, other than dumping the guy later, but unrelated to size.
     
  7. drumminmama

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    yeahhh she's not alone.
    so, are you saying eventually he'll just be a big prick? :)
     
  8. Tisha Mc

    Tisha Mc Banned

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    I hope big dick doesn't mean big prick. Hopefully this guy was just an anomoly.
     
  9. drumminmama

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    I think so.. this friend of mine has been a buddy for five years. Great guy, overall. Weird in some ways, but laid back enough to take ribbing for it.
    He gives as good as he gets, so it's fun to banter.
     
  10. hippychickmommy

    hippychickmommy Sugar and Spice

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    Lube would probably be your best bet to avoid the micro-tearing, then again, it's going to make him hit that cervix even harder, depending on the position, which can cause more discomfort. If I were you, I'd use some lube and experiment with different positions that make it less uncomfortable as far as hitting the cervix goes! That's what I've had to do with my hubby, specifically during ovulation when my cervix drops. Ouch. Hurts like hell then. :eek:
     
  11. drumminmama

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    new IUD, so I can get back at him 'til the strings soften. Yes, I was kind and warned him
     
  12. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    update:
    condoms apparently catch on old scars (I gave birth).
    I love my IUD.
    all is a bit more slippery, and less after-pain.
     
  13. DazedGypsy

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    how do i work w/it being too big?

    leaving enough time in between each bang... haha it's worth it.
    sorry, i know this post wasn't helpful at all.
     
  14. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    sorry, not an option :grin:
     
  15. DazedGypsy

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    monogamy ?
    :p
     
  16. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    right now, monogamy is on the table, but not in action.

    I got the lube, but think it is less necessary without latex.
    Then again, it's been 5 years since he'd has sex w/o a condom, and similar for me, so maybe I just didn't care. ;P
     

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