Please read!!! I need answers!!!!

Discussion in 'Lesbian' started by IrishEquestrian1688, Jun 13, 2009.

  1. IrishEquestrian1688

    IrishEquestrian1688 Member

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    so, every now and then in this relationship that i have with my girlfriend...i feel at times that its not possible for us to lead a normal life in the world today and that it would just be best to break up with her (even though i love her dearly) for the sake of trying to lead a "normal" life. I mean i get to thinking about children and houses and finances and stuff like that and im only 20!!! i havent even graduated yet, and i dont know any older lesbian couples that have made it in teh world today...other than the famous ones. but i mean it seems to me sometimes that its almost just worth the hurt and teh pain to suppress the feelings to make a 'better-fitting' life for me down teh road. for my family, and my children, and my parents and brother....i just dont konw what to do. and there is no one that i can talk to. i just get flustered and dont konw if the way im living my life right now, will be accepted, or liveable in a few years when things start getting really really serioues......any suggestions.?
     
  2. NotAFairyTale

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    Why cant you have a family with your girlfriend? There are plenty of ways, I love talking about it with my girl. And dont think about their "normal". Fucking normal sucks *shrugs* Be yourself, carve your own path. In the end, you'll be proud of what you accomplished.
     
  3. IrishEquestrian1688

    IrishEquestrian1688 Member

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    idk...i just thought that we were trying to do the impossible. yeah we talk about the future alot and i love it! we talk about families, living together, and getting a puppy too. sometimes i think about all the negative things that go wrong and not about how happy i will be. then i get iverwhelmed and start freaking out. thanks for your comments!
     
  4. Starfox

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    Why care about living a normal life? what you have with your girlfriend is hard to come by, dont give it up because you are worried about what society might think, society will have something to say about you regardless of what or who you are, being gay is just another subject to talk about...As long as you and your gf are happy thats all that matters, this game of life is not supposed to be easy but you have someone dont let that go ;)
     
  5. NotAFairyTale

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    Yeah. Be proud of who you are and what defines you. You have an amazing girlfriend, so def be proud of that. :]
     
  6. MaryJBlaze

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    i dont think it's impossible to have a 'normal' life as a lesbian couple, there are many out there who have done it successfully. You should look into finding a support group in your area.
     
  7. IrishEquestrian1688

    IrishEquestrian1688 Member

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    thanks for the replies ladies! to MaryJBlaze, i think that i will be trying to find a group somewhere but i dont live in a very lgbt nice area...im like one of 3 in a 50 mile radius. I think once i get back to school in charlotte, i will do just do that. to Starfox and NotAFairyTale, yes i am soooo lucky to have this woman in my life adn im glad that she has put up with my crap for this long. and yes she is amazing and beautiful. and thanks for the support ladies. i dont get this often, unless its from my friends and my gf but they are sooo far away from me right now and my family really doesnt speak of it unless its to yell at me, so i appreciate teh feedback. its keeping me sane.
     
  8. dont.ask.dont.tell...BS

    dont.ask.dont.tell...BS Guest

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    I live in Wyoming!! Talk about a very small LGBT population! at least those who are out about it. I'm also in the military, so not alot of room to be out and be in if you know what i'm saying. But i know who i am, and what makes me happy. If you break up with her just to conform to the norm, would you ever be truly happy? be yourself, and let the world conform to you. it will happen, we can see it now. so if you are feeling unhappy because you are scared of those around you and what they think, change the way they think! Who you love is who you love, don't settle for the general populations opinion on the matter!
    FYI lesbians and gays can have kids, get married, and still love who they want to. change the world, dont change yourself.
     
  9. what2do

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    My mum is a lesbian. She has a house with her girlfriend, they own cars, have normal jobs, go on holiday.

    My older friend is a lesbian. They have a morgage together. They work together, they own a car
    LOL stop thinking of excuses.
    10 years ago - Yeah fair enough.. it would have been hard
    now?
    Of course you can lead a normal life while being gay.
     
  10. Bonky

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    Thats a path 2 misery. Go visit NYC or CA and you'll see plenty of examples of happy gay couples.
     

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