I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years this August, I love her more than anything in the world. She is my best friend, I love just being with her, making her laugh and smile. We get along amazingly well, we rarely argue and we really enjoy being with each other in general. She is gorgeous, has an amazing size 10, curvy yet slim body with amazing DD boobs. She's perfect. I consider myself to be pretty attractive, I workout, and have a good physique, keep good hygiene etc. I am always telling her how gorgeous and amazing she is, I get a boner when she kisses me hard, so she knows I find her really attractive. The problem lies in the sex. We were both virgins when we met, we were pretty forward and were having sex after about 3-4 weeks. She was always quite shy, always let me take control and didn't really do much to me.. just kind of 'received' all the time, which at the time I didn't mind. I think it took about 2 months before she even gave my a blowjob... Ever since then she hasn't really changed. She never gives me random blowjobs when we're alone, she has never even made me cum in 3 years by sucking my dick. She never does anything unless I ask her.. My friends all go on how their girlfriends got horny and sucked their dick in random places, I could literally get hard, get my cock out and ask her to suck it, and she would just laugh and think I'm joking. I kept telling her my fantasy was to have her suck squirty cream off my dick, one night we were a bit drunk, I got the cream and said will you lick it off? She said, err OK. I squirted some over my dick and she just literally licked it off then stopped. Nothing else. She just sat there. I was like.. Hmmmm Okkkkkk.... Sex has obviously gotten a bit better over time. The problem is how she is about the whole thing. She rarely initiates sex, it's usually always me. When she does do it, she doesn't text me to say she's horny, or come round and whisper it in my ear. She will complain she wants to lie down, then will say 'let's go upstairs'. Then we'll get on my bed and she'll just kid of lie there most of the time. Waiting for me to 'get things started'. She has never just randomly pulled out my dick and sucked it. I have to ASK her before she will. Even then she acts all awkward and puts her head down while she does it so I can't see her face. I'm sick of making all the effort, me coming on to her and trying to turn her on. I want to be the one that's seduced for once. It's starting to cause problems. You may thinks she's not enjoying sex but I really think she does, she always gets really wet and seems really horny when we're doing it.. she moans so loud even though she knows people are in (And it doesn't seem fake). She begs me to fuck her once I've been licking her out and playing with her. Yet until I get her to this point she's like a boring nun who hates sex. Sex 99% of the time follows this routine. We lay down, she goes on about random stuff for 15 mins whilst I'm lay there horny as hell. I kiss her and kiss her and unless she's REALLY horny, she just kind of pies me off and keeps on talking. By this time I'm a bit annoyed, but won't want to ruin it. I'll strip her naked, kiss her beautiful body all over, make her really wet.. lick her out, then she'll ask her to fuck me, we'll fuck in a couple of positions then she'll tell me to cum insider her (Which I love), then it's over. A lot of the time we'll fuck twice because she'll still be horny (as will I). Over the last year or so it's really bothered me. I just get the feeling that she isn't really interested in sex. I still know she loves being with me, everything else is perfect. For example, I'll text her telling her I am horny and can't wait to see her naked. Instead of a nice reply like 'Ooo I can't wait either ', or something similar - she'll just reply saying 'You're always horny', or 'You're crazy!' I asked her why she never texts me about sex, telling me she is frisky or whatever. And when I text her she never replies in a sexy way, she just changes the subject or calls me silly. She said to me that she thinks it's 'corny' to talk about sex like that. Sigh.... This really gets me down, it's like she can't talk about sex.. she seems scared to. Like it's stupid to tell your boyfriend you wanna fuck him! I've told her this like 3-4 times, that it really bothers and upsets me how she is regarding sex. It doesn't seem to get me anywhere, she sort of has this attitude where she won't do something if someone has specifically asked her because then it looks like she's only doing it because she's been asked. I've told her to start initating sex, her idea of doing this is telling me she wants to 'go upstairs'. Well, wtf? Does she wanna go on the computer? Xbox? I know it sounds like I'm whining, I just want her to be more forward and open. To have a great sex life that we both enjoy, where we try new things and are completely comfortable with each other. Not one where it's me doing all the work. I hope I don't come off as an ungrateful prick, because I'm not. I just really want to have an amazing sex life with the girl I adore. But don't have anyone else I can get advice from really
My last gf was the EXACT same dude. She was even built the same from what you told us. I dated her for two years. She was the same as your gf, we started having less sex, she wouldn't do anything. Good luck man. Peace
Man mine said these EXACT same things. I know you don't right now cause you're there, but it's almost kinda funny to me. If never talked about it or really even heard ANYONE that had this problem. She was my best friend. Fuckin gorgeous too, other guys would have killed to have her. But when it came to sex, it was almost like she was broken or something. And I'm a VERY VERY open minded person when it comes to most things (except gay shit lol) bt she just never changed. Hopefully you have better luck than I did. I'm glad I read your post...it's creepy though, it sounds like I wrote it three years ago. Keep us posted. Good luck
Man sadly it sounds like it ended because of the sex? When we have sex, the actual sex is shit hot. I mean, she looks amazing, she is enthusiastic when we are doing it, she talks dirty etc.. It's just ALL the other things. We never just have spontaneous sex. Like today I text her telling her how amazing our sex was the other night and how gorgeous she looked. I said.. I hope you'll be waiting naked for me in my bed when I get home. She just txt me back sayin 'Nopez...x' She adds a Z to the end of words when shes being playful, so it isn't as bad as it seems.. But why couldn't she say.. 'Nope you'll have to wait until later!'. It's so depressing Then my best mate leaves his phone open and I read his txts off his girlfriend where she's telling him she's squirming on her chair she's that horny and that she wants his cock as soon as she sees him... Wow...
P.S- Just in case you're wondering how it all turned out. Her sex drive went in the shitter. We stopped having sex (maybe 4 times a month). Eventually she said exactly this: Her- "Well, we don't have sex anymore, that's not normal." Me- "I know! Thats what I've been saying. I want too, it's not me." Her- "I know, but I just don't care about sex to be honest." Me- "You use to." Her- "That's because it was new to me. I've realised I'm just not a sexual person." Me- "Or, you just haven't found what you like yet because you won't open up to me." Her- "No, I just don't care for it. I really don't" Me- "Alright, drop it then. Leave it at that." Her- "Well how can we have a normal relationship if we're not having sex? That's not normal." Me- "That's what I've been trying to tell you! We can't! So let's fix it." Her- "There's nothing to fix! I just don't give a shit about sex." And we broke up a week later. give or take a few days.
Wow that's fucking scary... her exaxt words once were 'Maybe I'm just not a sexual person.. ' That's worried me so much.. I really don't wanna lose her over this... We have sex at the most once a week.. very very rarely more than that... omg
yea after this convo, like 6 days later we had this fuckin horrible one: Her- "I don't really feel the same anymore." Me- "About what?" (I knew exactly what she was talking about) Her- "Well, like we don't really have sex anymore, I feel like, I love you so much, I do, your my best friend. But like I feel like we're such good friends." Me- "Yea....we are very good friends." (me playing dumb cause I know whats comin) Her- "Yea, I know, but I love you like I love my best friend. I don't feel like your my boyfriend anymore. I just don't think of you that way. I haven't for awhile. I still love you more than anything, just not in a boyfriend way." Me- "Okay, I get it. Fuck it, I'm gonna go home." Her- "Wait, what do you think of it?" Me- "I think you dogged me out of that role. I was a great boyfriend, you stopped wanting to fuck and in turn MADE me become a friend rather than a boyfriend. You did that, not me." Her- "Well, thats just how I feel." Me- "Yea, cause you made it happen. You kinda forced me to become 'just a friend'. If we're not fucking, what the hell else am I gonna be?" Pretty shitty stuff. I still don't understand how she really felt. I never will. We talked for the next month or 2 but then I just stopped returning her calls and she became just another ghost. Hopefully shit goes better for you man.
Thanks mate, I think you handled it great. Why the fuck do girls not want to have sex? It makes no sense.. it feels good.. it makes you connect... maybe not everyday twice a day, but shit more than once a week would be awesome.. What was she like during sex? Was it really bad or?
She was fine during sex, she got into it. She came, sometimes up to 3 times or more. She was loud often too. She enjoyed herself. But then when it was over or we weren't doing it she acted like she just didn't care for it at all.
Damn that's the same as her... One thing is I don't think I've ever actually properly made her cum.. which is a massive thing in my mind.. I often I her about it and she says 'You do'. I'll say 'When', to which she replies... I dunno, loads of times.. Not really very convincing.. She seems to love it, like before I've even touched her she's practically dripping wet and gagging for cock. I always try and make her cum by doing different things, and sometimes she spazzes out and goes all funny, but she's never said 'I 'm gonna cum' ... Damn me and my inexperience.. I bought a tiny vibrator once and tried it with her, she didn't dig it at all.. after about 5 minutes I gave up and just used my tongue, afterwards I asked her how it felt and she said 'I couldn't really feel it'... :\
Just a side note, when I use a vibrator and I go for anything else after I can't really feel it either
My ex hated dildos. Some chicks just don't dig em man. She hated them cause she said she didn't like the fake, plastic feeling. If she spazes though, most likely shes cumming when she does that. Also dude a natural giveaway of the female anatomy is when shes spazzing like that, if shes cumming her pussy will naturally get tighter around your cock. It's the female bodies natural way of trying to keep the semen in to help with pro-creation, so next time your fucking and she goes 'spazzy' just chill a minute and see if you can feel her 'gripping' your dick tighter. If she is, then shes cumming, no doubt. good luck man.
I definitely haven't made her cum through sex, she definitely enjoys it because she almost drips all over my cock. Dunno about making her orgasm properly though. Thanks for the help it's good to get stuff off my chest.
