I'm just so in some need of some opinions. My old girlfriend messed me up pretty fucking good. This was about 4 years ago in highschool. Long story short, she cheated on me after about a year. Ever since she broke up with me, I've been afraid. I got over her easily. What I was afraid of was being with someone else, and that someone else hurting me or me hurting them. Every time I liked someone, I would get to the point where I could make something of it, but I would always freak out and try to get out of it. I know it was selfish, but I didn't believe in myself. I have no problem meeting girls or anything either. One of the girls I met about 2 years ago, just started hanging around with us again. I never really stopped liking her, but just sorta stopped hanging with her, and even more when she got a boyfriend for about a year. Shes a wonderful person, and for the past week I just can't stop thinking about her. Shes really affectionate and flirty. I think she likes one of my friends a little, but i can't really tell, and am hoping she doesn't but oh well. I want to tell her how I feel so bad but I am so afraid of making it too sudden, or fucking it up. What would be the best way to go about this?
Next time she's around and you're wearing pants with an elastic waistband, pull out the front and just stare at your junk. If she looks down and you get hard, it's meant to be. If she looks down and you've got shrinkage, it wasn't. If she doesn't look down, never talk to her again.
^ lame ass If you're questioning yourself now on how to approach her now, then you're stil scared of getting hurt, and even if she does like you, every opportunity in a relationship that might come up, like her going out. the thought of her cheating is going to run through your head IMO I would get to know her better, she might be affectionate and flirty, and you may be attracted to that but if shes with you, she might have a flirty personality in general. I know I do but I mean no harm by it. you have to get over that first and get to know her better before rushing things. Let things fall in place for ya
^ Nope. Like you said, the boy and the girl don't really know each other at this point. Best to get the most crucial tests out of the way first. What both of them really want to know, before going any further, is what does the girl think of the boy's junk?
nah dude don't wait. just tell her. get yourself 2 bottles of wine, drink one, and randomly show up with roses and be like "hey. these are for you. your move." or something real minimal. and the other bottle. wait i think girls think that shit is kind of creepy. but thats my style. the way you get girls is by blowing them off totally and being a cool-dude asshole to them. just acting. it's like the code to girls telling them, i'm the one you want. don't even ask me why, but it's been working for years. what a joke.
I know her very well. And I told her. It came up very awkwardly, which I didn't want to say right this second, but she kept asking so i told. I knew I didn't want to, and now It's going to be an awkward couple of weeks ahead. Awesome, sike.
you had to wait. the reason why she kept asking is because she seen right through you that you liked her, she just wanted you to admit it and feel silly. like you do now that feeds on a girl. what you have to do now is kinda ignore her, act like "i like you but i dont really need you" that eats up both men and women. if she sticks around and gets very interested in you, then make better moves on her, if she doesnt, drop that bitch
I don't agree with ignore. I very strongly agree with the "i like you but I dont really need you" part. Act confident around her, act like it's no big deal that you like her or that she knows, but now that it's out there, it wouldn't hurt to make it obvious you like her; just don't make it obvious you want to date her.
hah no. She doesn't understand it really, i told her she wouldn't really but she wanted to know so I was just like whatever. I dunno it just will be since we had a little thing before and i bailed. Nah I know she didn't know I did. We are both just real flirty to begin with, and just comfortable around each other. I basically am going to do that, except I'm not trying to ignore her fully. Just more of like, trying to do other shit at the moment and not trying to make it seem like I'm desperate. I just hope she does actually become interested a little later.
