ok so check this out, im in iraq unfortunately. my girlfriend of 1 year lives in los angeles. she has always been good to me and blahblah everything is good. ok so she goes to her hometown to see family and friends, no big deal. one day on aim she tells me she was disrespectful. i figured oh man she cheated. ok well thats that. well turns out she just partied with people and crashed in a dudes bed. with a dude in it. and its no big deal to her. then a few days later she tells me she went to a bachelor party and partied with all dudes in a hotel and stayed the night. like it was no big deal. she claims nothing has happened and that she would never disrespect me or what we have. im skeptical. now i know if it was the other way around id be the one accused of being unfaithful. she says she loves me and is gonna wait, blahblah. but all this hanging out with dudes and stayin over really bothers me. am i supposed to think this is ok, and to not have a problem with it? im a dude, and i know most dudes just wanna fuck. i know this. i can deal with that fact. but it drives me crazy to think she either did cheat and wont tell me, or she didnt. either way the whole situation bothers me.
Being the daughter of a military family, Ive seen several young guys in this situation, and to be honest... shes probably cheated. Its not fair that these girls do these things while theyre supposed to be supporting you, but honestly shes showing you exactly how she is with your back turned. Its unfortunate but if she thinks this behavior is okay then perhaps shes not the perfect match for you
Dude how does she get off with saying she doesn't want to disrespect you but then goes and crashes in a hotel room with a bunch of guys? Even if she didn't cheat that's really fucking disrespectful. Would she want you getting wasted and sleeping in a room with a bunch of girls? I'm finding that more and more people have a hard time drawing the lines between having harmless fun and totally inappropriate. Her hanging out with a guy friend = harmless fun. Sleeping in a hotel room with them = shady, disrespectful, and unfaithful even if she didn't have sex.
