Is this true of you?

But is that because they are middle aged men, or is it because a lot of middle aged men tend to be rather pathetic creatures?

 

Dave, what the hell made you adhere to such an absurd rule?

 

A lot of middle aged men are bitter, cynical and intolerant. I do admit that my perception is largely influenced my line of work. I am a merchandiser for a bread company so I deal with a lot of retail store managers. Most men who are still working in retail after their 40s hate themselves.

 

dave, if you continue to relate to others, by such simplitic black and white morality then, your already well down the road to becoming one of those 40 year old men you despise.
yeah, i know, your saying i'm full of shit and, i have no ideal what i'm talking about. and, your thinking that will never happen to me.
your dead wrong on all counts too!
i have seen one hell of a lot of people who talk like do. almost all of them wind up being the thing they hate by age 40; that they say they hate at 20.
i hope i'm wrong about your case... check back in 20 years and, let us know if you turn into one of those assholes hate.

 

i don't respect anyone unless they've done something to earn it.

i generally dislike everyone when i first meet them. once i get to know them a bit, i usually determine that they are ok people. once i get to know them even more, i usually start to dislike them again.

i know respect isn't the same as "liking" someone, but i have a liking pattern and not a respect pattern.

 

I respect those who deserve it. I am polite to everyone until they do no deserve it. Holding doors, I think, is more about politeness than respect. I hold for everyone. And in the event of a "No, after you." situation - I decline once and if he offers again, I relinquish my door holding to him.

 

Everyone has my respect until they do something to lose it.

 

i agree with this.

 

i respect very few people. for me respect is a very strong word. i respect maybe only ...2 people...maybe even one. i don`t know how it happenes with the respect thing, but i don`t give it just like to anyone. it does not matter man or a woman. you have to be a really true , really real friend of mine so i can respect you. that does not mean i disrespect other people...but , hmm it is a different kind of 'respect" haha . hard to expalin

 

Whether its a woman or man does not matter, both have to earn my respect.As far as opening a door etc. for someone, that's just common courtesy.

 

I don't know, I hold doors for people, let people cut me in line, let others take the right away, take people's carts back for them, help old ladies out, stuff like that all the time.
I don't even see it as "respect". It's just good manners, and being polite, if everyone did things like that society would get along a lot more smoothly instead of everyone being pissed at all the other egos out there.
But to me, respect is a highly personal thing, and something that you can't just give to a stranger on the street. How can you respect someone when you don't even know them?

 

Women never get my respect. They are just objects.

 

I disagree with the people that say it is not about respect. Maybe I'm just being finicky about words, but I know "polite" people. They care more about rules than people. Humanistic, respectful people actually think consciously about the needs of others. There is a difference. I personally don't like a lot of people, but I respect that in their own way they are human just like myself and deserve to be treated accordingly.

 

I operate with a basic level of respect for everyone. The rest has to be earned like merit badges, motherfuckers.