Confusion

If you think it's too big a risk, don't do it.
I'm sure they'll appreciate it.

If this is about Canada would it not be possible to move there at a later point in life?
I mean, like if their thing doesn't work out, then move.
Canada ain't going anywhere.


It's just an idea, I don't know the circumstances.


Of course, if it's not possible then I'd really say just talk it out with them.
A problem shared is a problem halved, unless it's murder or something in which case they'll go down anyway...

 

Without making this too public or too big a deal... I can't save half as much money without you. It's an extra income and a free babysitter.

You should be looking at this the same way. Stop being emotional and be logical. This is the biggest opportunity you've ever been offered and you're going to turn it down.... why? Because we're not together? Make the move, if you're unhappy, I'll pay for you to move back after you've saved enough money up to be comfortable......

Don't be foolish.

 

Amen, Fitz!!!

 

Sounds reasonable to me. Dont fear geographical changes. Life is life, wherever you go.

 

don't you read canada's tweets? it's a country on the move...

 

I think you guys should try couple's counseling. You guys have a child together and two others that you love.
I think counseling, taking walks together, holding each other's feet while you do sit-ups and a date night once a week (even if it's after the kids went to bed if you can't get a sitter) would be good. And no sex while this is happening, until you two are commited.
The spark will come back for you and the self-esteem will come back to Jess. The self-esteem will in turn lead to compliments for you and treating you better. In turn this will lead towards more romantic feelings towards jess.
I think your logic is awesome. I love that about guys. But, I think you are neglecting Jess' feelings about the situation. If you're not emotionaly vested in her, she has no guarantees.

 

I'm not wanting to make a show out of this, but I will say that I have been a safety net thus far and I will not let her fall now.

She knows that while I don't think we should be together, I have a very vested interest in her well being as well as the childrens. Those are all the guarantees one should need.

I'm not asking her to come with me to save our relationship. I'm asking her to come with me to help her provide a better future for herself and her children. I am going regardless to provide a better future for myself and my son, and eventually it will carry over to her and her children too. They will always be my family.

I'm not going to lead on with false hopes and promises. If something happens it happens, but the invitation is as a friend and fellow parent to somebody I love and respect. Nothing more. Nothing less.

 

That's very fair and healthy. I do think regardless fo your itnentions, couple's counseling can help both of you clearly understnad what you want and help you guys come to terms with moving on.
I am sorry for being pushy. I miss my job and people askign me to tell them what to do lol. It's hard seperating that part of my idenity.
But, i shouldn;t have been pushy.

 

Yea, I agree with TCF, it's not a matter of saving our relationship, that has been long gone and we will not be working on it or trying to save it, there is nothing left to save... and yes that is part of the reason I am hesitant, I belive emotionally it will be devistating eventually. I'll have to sit back with the only person I know seeing them with someone else, eventually, I don't think I can do that.

Thank you for trying to help hun, I really do. Some people are lucky enought to find someone who loves them, an some peope have a different path.

 

Fail at what? The only time you can fail at life is when you die, therefore NO ONE doesn't fail.

I do appreciate you looking out for me Adam, but you know it's not the right choice for me, it's the right choice for you.

 

Nope, all it tweets about it mooses and gays.. blah.. blah.. blah..

 

and weed. Don't forget the weed.

 

I don't try to resolve anything in my head. Instead, I focus on my body. My health, posture, proper rest, appearance, nutrition, and exercise. Then I make decisions with my gut, not my intellect.

 

Dont ask me, my whole life has been one big head trip.

People are fucked up.


I'm posting this from the library, there is a guy and a girl in here on seperate computers playing solitaire. Free Internet and they are playing Solitaire? WTF?

 

Ok, now there's three people playing solitaire???

 

I'm not playing solitair!

I'm posting.


........here.

 

There are two things in life that once they're gone, you can never get back: Time and Opportunities.

 

true. I've deceided to give it a chance...man this is crazy though.

 

Aww cool

I hope everything works out as planned

 

I go to Ivillage and start a ruckus...


Now this is the thought that wakes me up in the middle of the night. That when I get older, these kids are going to take care of me...