how would you feel if you found out you had had sex with someone 2 years later..

..and had absolutely no recollection of it at all, total blank, and that someone was a friend? And he just decided to tell you, after all this time. Oh and you thought you knew everyone you had ever had sex with.

 

Uhh did he rape you while you were passed out?

 

Yeah that a bit scary.

 

OK, well I just found out like half an hour ago that this happened. And it's not rape - apparently, I initiated the whole thing. Total blank. I'm in total shock.

 

either you have a horrible memory or you got roofied

 

i'd be a little freaked out to find out i had sex with a dude no matter how many years had past.

 

Nahh brah
How did he tell you?
Did he bring it up in conversation like "remember that time we had sex?"
or like a confession?

 

Want me to rape him back for you?

 

I just washed my clothes and discovered a pack of condoms in my pants, and haven't had sex in weeks.

This happened this morning. Not quite as bad I guess, but I didn't buy/use the condoms as far as I'm aware.

 

Of course their gonna tell ya that. "Well you passed out and I was a little drunk, also didn't help your skirt rode up to your waist so it wasn't hard getting your undies off. Don't worry I used protection." Doesn't sound too romantic does it.

 

You shouldn't tell her she was assaulted when she has no idea what happened.

 

Were you on any drugs, alcohol or were there any people around that night that you can recollect would know anything about it? Depending on how good of a friend this guy is... you cant always fully trust what he says. Good friend or not if he thinks he could lose a friendship over what happened your probably not going to get the full truth from him!

 

OK this was 2 years ago. I was going through a really horrible time. I took all these Xanax. I know this makes me sound fucked up, but I was fucked up back then, didn't know what I was doing.. made a mistake. I was in my car, and I remember calling the guy and he came to help me.. I remember walking back to my dorm room with him. That's it.

He said he tried to tell me before (and I remember that) but I got mad so he said he was kidding cause he felt bad. But I just imed him today, out of the blue - we hadn't talked in a while - like a year - and he all of a sudden decided to tell me this.. cause he couldn't hold it in any longer. Took a lot of time convincing me. But he wasn't kidding.

He said he didn't have it in mind at all - just wanted me to be okay - was gonna take me to the hospital but I refused cause I didn't have insurance. Then he said I started the whole thing, after he walked me up.. got me a glass of water, and lay down with me cause he was tired.. but then I woke up and started cuddling and stuff and he couldn't resist.

I'm just so embarassed and in total shock.

 

He took advantage of you.
He's not a friend.

 

i would think,boy i really had substance abuse issues back then..

 

I'd feel like shit. Maybe cry. Depending on if he cared about me.

 

Its nothing to be embarassed about. People make mistakes and we learn from them thats how we can become the people that we are in the present. There is a learning experience from everything in life, and we cant beat ourselves up over a decision that we're not proud of. Take a step back and look at your life... where u were then and where you are now. Do you see improvement? Im sure you do... you've become a better person from it all and theres nothing to be ashamed of, just a learning experience hun!

I cant say whether what he said really happened or not obviously but just use it to make better decisions in the future and if you believe this person has no reason to lie to you then be glad you have a friend that could be so honest to tell you that even if it did risk a friendship.

 

I think that's a little presumptuous.
If anything, that he felt he had to tell her proves the opposite.

And how come your age is always different? +_+

 

That's really not cool. It's not really rape but it's definitely not cool. Even if he didn't mean anything malicious by it, it's just not right to fuck a chick so drugged up you were previously considering taking her to the hospital. But I guess it's good that he told you.

 

My point exactly.