Females and sex.

I do agree with Tigerlily that looks matter, but only to certain extent. Looks don't necessarily matter when it comes to sex only, but when it comes to a relationship... I need to be attracted to the guy both mentally and physically. Of course it's the personality that matters the most, but if I didn't find the guy sexy (it has a lot to do with the personality as well, not just the body) then that would be it.

 

Hi i got to this point sometimes as well.Un fortunately for a man girl's look is 90% whereas for a girl man's look is the resting 10%.They count you know, personality,your wallet of course(ever asked yorself why so damned good-looking girls in their twenties hang out with grey-haired chubby man??), beacuse they want to be wealthy, i would say they look for wealthness, so it doesn't matter how good you look, it matter how you pose(hope is the right term in english) yourself.well, i'm not pulling out rules, it's just my impression, you gotta work on that remaning 10%..kidding

 

I also get pissed off when i see a good-looking girl goin out with an ugly one..girls can't understand is really annoying..

 

hahahah thats funny . The thing is that some good looking girls are not realy worth the effort to get to know..

If you went upto either the man or the woman you may just find both are realy nice people and that they do deserve each other..... hahahah yep i kid myself with that one as well.

Seriously its confidence.

 

Hah! Are you stupid? Good lord... women don't look exclusively for wealthy guys. There's a lot more that factors into attraction than how big their bank account is or how tricked out their car is (which actually is a turn off to me, because what a waste of money to make your car all fancy looking!) Chemistry, personality, appearance, sense of humour, romantic notions, being able to hold a real conversation... all of these things are waaaaay more important than moola.

As for young girls and old guys, well, yeah sometimes money is a factor. But have you ever considered the fact that most older guys have a helluva lot more experience than young guys in the sex department? Most young guys I've run across are basically racing to orgasm, and that's about it. Older guys know how to control themselves better - they aren't going to cum in five minutes and leave the girl without her o.

and, some guys gray early. My dad was halfway bald by the time he was 20, so hair doesn't necessarily determine age m'dear.

 

I have noticed that men that I don't find physically attractive can become attractive to me if I get to know them better, and men I find physically attractive can become less attractive.

My main problem is that all of the physically attractive men are either taken, gay, or won't give me the time of day, and the less than physically attractive men are to impatient. If I like someones personality but can't imagine having sex with him, I need time to see if get past that. How to you explain that to someone? "Your a little gross to me, I need time to get to know the real you?"

I think that is why they say people usually meet the person they will marry at college or work. They create situations where you have time to get to know people without any added pressure.

 

I am not saying that looks are more than anything else in a relationship. I am simply saying that when given a choice, why wouldn't a good looking woman choose a good looking guy who also has all the other personality traits they want, rather than settling for a guy who just has the personality alone and no looks? I don't know they how fully enjoy the sexual part of the relationship if the guy isn't as sexy looking as they are.

I mean a girl with an awesome body who doesn't care what the guy looks like, puzzles me. I mean don't they understand that they look good and can get a sexy looking guy who is also a nice guy? Makes me wonder if the girl even knows she is sexy or what sexy even means. Then when I am with such a girl, it becomes less enjoyable to think she doesn't even realize that her body is hot and I am enjoying it.

I am finding it difficult to explain, but I guess I am saying that it seems like some women are not on the same page with me when it comes to sex. I like to be BOTH mentally as well as physically attracted to my mates. Just one wont due for me. If I am just mentally attracted to a girl, she is just a friend.

 

Spidey, maybe you're just an asshole. That's why women cannot make the emotional connection with you, that is required for meaningful sex.

 

Hey ihmurria, that was meant provoking, but you admitted in the end, trying to justify it with the experience "story".Experience is another matter, the focus of the thread was attraction.Anyway i know there are more factors, and i think girls often focus just on feature for example:"hey is really hearing to me , i can talk to him, then i fuck him.."

About experience, what you said implies that make a reckon: look at him that 50 years old smart man must be experienced; we guys don't say this, we say:man she's hot, beautiful and so on.Thats' always first, always.Then if she about 40 we also say, well experienced and bla bla, but it is secondary.

anyway think back about wealthy i didn't mean only car and money, i meant also women need to feel good, having an house a good life-style and so they look for someone who can provide it, because nowdays woman are too and they can provide it by themselves, but only a few deades ago our granny's time that wasn't meant.

How do you look ihmurria?? bye

 

Must be ya looking in the wrong places. Liked what most had to say here.:sunglasse

 

ive met good looking guys that im attracted to... until they open their mouth and im sorry but i dont care if a guy is a 10 out of 10 if i dont like his mind then i dont even look back. i find most of the good looking guys i meet these days are either arrogant vain or just cold and snobby! not that every good looking guy i know is like that but yeah, and its a HUGE turn off. i dont think i personally could really have a relationship with someone that i didn't find somewhat physically attractive but close friends can be fulfilling as well (i know, not what you wanted to hear! heh). and ive got to say im so sick of seeing nice good looking guys with bimbos on their arms, what about girls with a brain like me! It is important to connect with a guys mind if you're going to love him and stuff. i think guys have it easier because girls are generally less concerned with how a guy looks whereas like someone said before to guys looks are 90% important.

 

It's how you are treated, it's the attention you give, the little things, like phone calls or messages out of the blue, being there when she needs a shoulder to cry on, showing you care and that you think she is the most beautiful woman in the world and being her best friend, not just her "lover". THAT'S what turns ME on.

If my husband, whom I think is extremely sexy, sits around on his duff all day long playing the Xbox or fooling around on his fantasy football website, and doesn't help out around the house and with the kids, I have absolutely NO desire to have sex with him whatsoever, even if he comes after me and gives me a nice feel-up when the kids aren't paying attention. BUT, on days where he helps out, really takes time out and listens to me, is active in parenting our children (which he does a majority of the time), and doesn't park himself in front of the computer or Xbox, he's racking up some major brownie points, and I feel like I want to jump his bones when I get him alone. Because to me, it shows his appreciation, love, and respect for me.

Women tend to need emotional nonsexual foreplay to get them even more into the mood. It all adds up, and it does make a difference. So I think that it really doesn't matter all of the time to women (or men too) what their potential partner LOOKS like, but just the real person inside. Sure, looking great is a turn on, but looks fade, and there's got to be more there than that for a good connection.

Good luck, and just be your true inner self.

Much peace.

 

Looks are subjective. But honestly he has to have both...he has to be good looking and he has to be good in bed...

 

By that response, I can certainly see that you are a HUGE "asshole", because you don't even get what I am saying.

 

I still dont understand any of this whole post, i agree with spidey though. I myself i consider a goodlooking guy and i have other good qualities such as : intelligent, fun to be around, funny, intriguing, openminded..etc, but whenever i try to meet a girl wether they are good looking or not i dont get far. Girls seem kind of stupid to me in how they make excuses up and whatever else they do. Im not bad looking and then i see less than average guys with these goodlooking girls. I think girls dont know what they want actually. Ive had goodlooking girls like me, and not so goodlooking but i wasnt into either at the time, and now when i try to meet a goodlooking girl i dont get far. If im lucky to get a number then they make excuses up. I think the more attractive ones for some reason are the least intelligent.

If there is ever going to be a judging contest for different photos of men ,i think a bisexual guy would be a better judge than a woman cause women would pick ugly guys. Women would make the worst judges when it comes to judging what a goodlooking guy looks like.

 

i cannot believe that this is an actual topic and not some sarcastic joke

 

I have a friend that refuses to date good looking guys. She says that she can't trust them, they are unfaithful.

*shrugs*

 

LOL, I pretty much think you get my drift in this thread.

I just can't see how they enjoy sex with a person that is not equal in looks to themselves. It seems that some girls don't even realize how goodlooking they, themselves are.

I want a female to be enjoying my good looks as much as I am enjoying her's during sex, and I want her to be aware of how good she looks, so she understands why I am enjoying her. (This is putting all other attrac tions aside such as personality, I am discussing the looks part here, so start with the "How shallow can you be non-sense. This question is about sex, not the whole relationship).

 

then it's (making love to him) it's a way to say thank you..
that's pretty much what I meant about this topic.
it's a kind of exchange: men provide you wealthness or whatever you need and you..make him happy "gifting" yourself, so no matter if the men in question is good or bad looking..

do you agree?

 

That is such a stupid generalisation..
I mean, of course you get the women that pay more attention to looks, the ones that pay more attention to personality and ones that are somewhere between.

Personally, I look for personality first.. but if I don't find the guy physically attractive then I won't fancy him. I mean, he could be the nicest guy in the world but if you don't find him attractive then what's the point. He's obviously going to be insulted by that fact also. But on the other hand, if he's very attractive but a compete dickhead then I'm not having any of that either.

A balance between is what to go for.