Teen girls' opinions on domestic violence

The Times did an article about how teen girls feel about the Chris Brown/Rihanna situation. Majority of girls said Rihanna must have really pissed Chris Brown off to beat the hell out of her like that. Why do these girls feel it's justified for a partner to beat another if there is a "really good reason"?

 

yeah, that's a very sad state of mind. that's pretty appalling. but probably goes to show that domestic violence on both parts is still pretty prevalent.

 

Probably because their self esteem has been beaten to a pulp, and they feel they don't deserve someone who treats them properly.

 

a lot of girls have said that at my school...
and it really does upset me. I mean I have no interest in these peoples lives, but no one woman or man, George w. bush or John McCain deserves to be beaten. Violence is just disgusting.

 

Have you had a discussion with these girls about how they feel? Maybe you can have an intellectual discussion with them =)

 

they don't exactly like me...
haha
i mean they even talked about how "CUTE" Chris Brown looked in court.
it's for these reasons that we don't look each others way

 

I try not to talk to most of the girls at my school. It's just, ugh. Not even worth my time.

 

How cute he looked in court? Wow. How sick is that. Okay I don't give a damn about celeb gossip, I only mention this couple because the response from teenage girls saddens me. I showed the "alleged" pictures of the beaten Rihanna to my son because he likes Chris Brown. And a 10 year old boy could figure out how fucked up this is. And a large percentage of teenage girls can't? Where is the outrage? The disgust? Not just about this case but all cases. I don't understand it. It's okay to beat Rihanna cause Chris Brown is "cute"? Come on girls...

 

i know...
try sitting in class with them every day, listening to their mindless jabber...
they need to take an infinite amount of steps away from the television.
It scares me, that they are apart of the future.

 

here's what i think on the domestic violence situation...
THERE IS NO NEED FOR VIOLENCE ANYWHERE! that includes the home.
home is supposed to be a place where you can go to feel safe and secure, not where you're scared shitless because your partner might fly off the handle and beat you to a pulp.

if there are two intelligent people in a household, there shouldn't be any call or thought of violence. anyone with some sort of intelligence can see that just by calming down and talking things out then can accomplish so much more than violence ever will.

</rant>

 

are these girls who fight a lot?

 

yes they are...
how'd you know?

 

I read that article a few months back! Very shocking!
One of my oldest childhood friends is in an abusive relationship, and it's really painful for me to watch. She's changed so much because of him, and I am worried that she's never going to be the same. She tells me things like "I provoked him" or "he has a really bad temper, and I shouldn't have done this or that" or "it's never going to happen again, or I'm really going to leave." She also thinks that no one can understand their love.
I can't figure out why she thinks she deserves that. He's cheated on her numerous times, and she always finds a way to blame herself for that too.
She's only 20, and they've been together for over a year, and they're engaged and whatnot. I told her I wouldn't go to their wedding, even though we both promised each other when we were little girls that no matter what, we'd be each other's bridesmaids.

 

Im always having these talks to the people at school .. and you know what? they say that it is our parents fault (haha) and give the 'the world isn't perfect - we cant do anything' crappy excuse..

violence is no good.

 

I've always questioned why Rihanna hasn't spoken out against the situation. What she's doing is basically making it seem like "shit happens" to a bunch of young girls who idolize her. People should be outraged and disgusted at Chris Brown. Not just women, everyone. Beating the shit out of someone is not okay.

 

The whole deal was messed up. A man should never hit a woman, no matter who he is or who she is- and CrystalRevelation's story brought a tear to my eye. The fact that society is actually reversing is sickening to me. In my opinion, it's like spitting in the face of every renegade in history. Them girls are obviously at the same mental level as girls in the 1930's, not the 2000's. What happened to the mentality of the 1960's and 70's?

 

It was mostly a myth, I think.

 

Unfortunately a great deal of it WAS a myth. Don't get me wrong, there was a great women's movement at that time. However, it was greatly exaggerated, as was the bra burning.

 

I was very very upset with this in the beginning. How just because you're "famous" you beat up someone but then she takes him back? Stupid stupid

 

Maybe it has nothing to do with their being famous. Have you considered the fact that you don't know these people, and have no idea what really happened?