If a girl is feeling a guy way more than he's feeling her is it a bad idea to just want to hang out with her and cuddle / kiss when it's clear she wants something serious? I think she'd settle for what I'm offering but I feel really bad not being able to fulfill what she needs, and I would feel bad not being around her at all. I care about her and don't want to hurt her, and I let her know all this but it really feels like a lose - lose situation.
don't make her settle for you. Thats a dick thing to do. You can get pussy (thats probably what you're after) anywhere...don't make her pay just cause you're lookin to get your rocks off
You're saying cut it off completely? I'm not after her box, in fact I've been avoiding it. She goes to my school so I'm going to be seeing her no matter what. I told her I don't want any kind of commitment but should I not act affectionately toward her at all?
i've done that to guys sometimes..they want me, and i just wanna make out hehehe. they know where i stand and they still wanna stand right next to me. it's really her choice, so don't kill yourself with guilt or anything. just be clear that the cuddling and smooching are NOT to be read into, dig?
That's what a little voice inside my head has been whispering in my ear, I just wasn't sure whether or not to trust it. She's really cute and very mellow, there just aren't any fireworks. Tyvm Marbchic.
It sounds like YOU will loose self esteem if you cuddle with her, so don't. After the non-cuddle, both of you will respect yourselves in the morning. After a cuddle, the situation is less clear. Find a partner whose goals match yours.
you can be friends, but you have to tell her that you dont want what shes looking for. if you dont you're just leading her on. dont cuddle with her and kiss her because that sends the signal that you're not ready for a relationship NOW but that you could be ready down the road. you need to be very clear with her.
Nooo I cannot tell you how many times I been in this situation and it took a toll on me. If you keep this up with the cuddling and what not..shes gonna get closer and closer to you and thats no good. MAKE SURE you tell her exactly how you feel because she is liking you more and more because and Id hate to say it...you're leading her on. Cut ties immediately and dont let her think she was a booty call. Be just friends with her!
Every relationship is lop sided. I'm reminded of a quote from a M.Night Shayalan movie, forget the name, that stupid one where trees and plant turn on mankind, stupid movie but it had one great quote: "Aint no couple ever loved equally, there is always one being chased, and one doing the chashing, so which one of you is chasing?"
