Off and on for 5 years. Thats the point where you gotta think....do I really want this to go on? Its still going on and it will continue to go on. It sounds like she just CANNOT make up her mind. should i love him or leave him? And she goes back to you because she knows you'll take her back. Shes playing mind games with you and sooner or later, youre gonna get sick of it. Hence hence "Im not over her YET" So you are thinking about moving on...you're just scared to have no one by your side...well you are gonna have to go through that for a minute but its worth it because in your heart, you know you deserve someone better try and distant yourself from her...when she calls, dont always pick up, dont always be there. shes taking you a little for granted and when you do this, then see how she reacts...you might just change your mind about her
Oh honey..so many questions going through your head right now. My hearts aching because I know how you feel. Shes taking you for granted telling you those things and shes a fool for doing it to a guy like you Any other girl would appreicate you for you. But not this one. You have to move on slowly but quickly. Tell yourself you can do fine without her. follow my advice. I been taken for granted so many times and you eventually put your foot down and say no more Thats what you need to do and walk away...she'll be dumbfounded but youll be the happiest person knowing you're out of all this hurt you're going through with a silly girl.
Honestly if you let her go out with other guys and she is taking you for granted your going to end up being extremely pissed. You'll be mad at her eventually for going outside the relationship. Trust me I've been there and you think you'll be ok with it but you won't be. I know you think you can't love anyone else, but you'll find someone who will be better for you. I think you should move on, don't wait for her to make up her mind on weather or not to leave you. You need to leave and if you mean enough to her she will get the hint. If not then you know she isn't the right girl for you. There are other women out there that would love to have a guy like you. Hell I'd love to have a guy who bought me flowers, I never got a single flower in my life from a guy. Its ok to be jealous of guy friends, everyone is a bit afraid that their partner will connect with someone else. You are being taken on a ride that you should just get off. You'll be sick at first from it, but you'll walk it off eventually. Its whats best for you even though you don't want to believe it.
I have to say I think she's doing the right thing. You're both young, you both should be having fun and enjoying life.. it's not wrong for a 21 year old to want to do that. She's telling you about how she feels and what she wants which is awesome, so many people just go off and cheat on their partners if they're unhappy.. She's trying to do the right thing by talking to you. I know it sucks for you but in the end of the day, you can't force someone to be with you. And you know, it might end up being a very good thing for you both.. you've been through a lot, maybe it is time for you both to have some fun and move on, whether it's together or not. Anyhow, I hope things work out for you mate.
I dont agree with the fact that shes taking you for granted. My father is a drug addict and i will never fully trust him ever again. So maybe she just wants to make sure that you've actually changed.
Oh so you think that a 21 yr old girl is just having fun by playing with a guys heart just because she gets off on telling him that she loves him but turns around and says she doesnt need him? I think shes a bitch for doing that and needs to grow the hell up. you havent noticed that he said this has been going on for years now and again it will continue to go on. probably for the rest of HER life because she obviously does not understand love and how it works love makes you a fool for the wrong person. true love creates no hard work in the beginning. it creates no mind games, it gets straight to the point. you will find someone that wants and desires you. not to play you for a fool and in the end, you know that she'll still be struggling with men but you'll be happier than ever with a woman that loves you with no strings attached
This clearly sucks, all for the sake of mind games. Which will neither help nor fix any matter. All i can say is, if its not seriouse to stop flat out. Prolonging the matter will only have you mixed vying for positive gains, while consistantly getting hit down. Just slowly distance yourself out of it. Either she is going to notice and actually care, or keep up with what she wants. Being completly on call though is only going feed the habit she wants, since she knows you are not going anywhere.
i dont agree that she is takin you for granted either, and I love her honesty....I say give her the freedom she needs(after all,she did stand by you through all your shit), and if its meant to be it'll be...if you dont want to date others than don't, take the time to work on yourself and your life...if she comes back clean, she's yours forever.
THAT part is where she IS taking you for granted though. I feel like a broken record. I know girls like her. Sure shes honest about it but shes confused as hell. YOU know what YOU want and your heart says her but your mind wants someone else. GET someone else and leave her ass in the dust. Let her know how it feels give her what she wants..freedom. "I doubt we'll ever be the same, too much poison and confusion on your face" learn that lyric. it relates a lot to your sitiuation. but give her that and just leave. Its cold hearted but what shes doing to you is cold hearted. The reason why you're still complaining is that you havent gone out and put yourself out there yet...GO! :toetap05:
see if its shoved in your face, you will finally get it and move on. True love is great teamwork to me. You were the only one putting efforts in how you felt about it and she was off goofing around. Time to get a woman
