Sounds rather mean of your mom. Any idea why she would say such things? And no, you don't have to believe her - still, it's rather mean of her to say stuff like that. How old are you by the way? From your post I'm guessing you still live with her. Am I right? Just trying to understand more of where you're coming from.
dont listen to her.. i duno why she'd say that to her child does it be heated when she says it, like does she be pissed off with you.. or is it just random??? and theres someone out there for everyone
How can you be more confident? Wow, that is a tall chore to ask someone but I will give it a try. The first thing is easier said than done but there is no way around it. Be both willing and expecting of failure and try anyway. I think a lot of confidence is not a supreme belief in the ability to succeed but the ability to accept failure and go on. Second, you may need to reinvent yourself in some ways. This is not a finger snap. It is a process. So, in regards to this, what types of interests and hobbiees do you have? I think you should acquire develop a number of them. Be sure to have a few (not just one) nonconfrontational interests/hobbies that appeal to a wide variety of people such as an interest in a few popular bands or a local sports team. That way you will often have something to share and talk about regardless of who you are around. Be sure to develop one or two interests that are eccentric and not so common. It will give you something a little different from everyone else and will be all the better when you encounter someone who shares your interest. Examples are various card games, book genres, cult movies such as the Rocky Horror Picture Show, etc. Don't be afraid to ask people questions about their interst in these hobbies. It will give them a chance to share something with you (giving you a break from trying to break the ice and push the envelope) which might surprise you how often people are happy to talk about what they like. This goes along with being able to listen well, a good skill to develop. I think that knowing about and sharing an interest in things that many people feel interest in may make you feel more comfortable when such topics come up in conversation. Rhat should lead to some confidence. Having a few eccentricities will make people remember you. Now, actually developing these interests/hobbies and developing the skills of listening and asking questions while developing the ability to embrace failure and move on is the trick that will take time. That is about as good as I can do. I hope that helps some.
Do you mean that you try and succeed all the time or that you haven't been failing because you haven't been trying? If the former, I really do not know what to say other than keep up the good work. If the latter, then what of the possibility of developing those interests etc so that opportunities for those attempts will come up all the time and might possibly be easier to take a stab at?
