sorry if this is kind of a weird thread haha i have like 2 questions. or like 3 kind of. ok first thing: my friend always smokes me up, well not ALWAYS but like he'll call me up sometimes if he has a bowl pack and we'll drive around for a bit, or something. but basically he smokes me up more than i smoke him up probably. but he never asks me to put in anything i have, like if he asked me i would but he usually doesnt. so anyway, the other day i was going to buy weed so he picked me up and when i got in the car it was already hotboxed with his weed and he offered me a few hits cause the bowl was still going around. then his friend packed another bowl of mids and we passed that around while we waited for the dealer... then after we bought they were going to make a bong. he asked me if i wanted to put in any weed and i said no because i was going to sell half of what i had anyway and i already had a decent buzz and whatever. so i just didnt hit the bong. and then the next day my friend texted me out of no where and asked me what was up. i told him that i was at dinner but i was going to stop at the park and smoke a bowl on my way home (cause i had my weed with me and all, i wasnt hinting to meet up with anyone i was planning on just smoking by myself). so then he texted me back and asked me if i want to hang out so i said sure and that i'll meet him there. so when i got there we played frisbee for a bit, it was me and the same two people from the previous night. they had already smoked a bowl of the other kid's weed (he got an 8th for $10 cause his brother sells and bought half a pound or something). so then we go back to smoke a bowl and my one friend used up the rest of his weed and the kid with the $10/8th put some of his weed in too. so we passed that around and then they were gonna go jam somewhere so i decided to go home. but anyway, was it like a dick move or whatever to not smoke any of my weed? since they'd already smoked a bowl they were sufficiently baked after the second, and i didnt feel the need to pack another bowl right then. also they were gonna go jam and wanted to leave soon anyway. but then like i didnt hang with them after... like idk i felt like i just smoked with them and left... i guess i was there for like an hour and a half or so... idk i just sorta felt like i'd ditched them after they smoked me up or something haha idk if it sounded like that or not ok other thing, totally unrelated to the first but still falls under the weed etiquette question thing yesterday i was with my two friends (different people from above) and i'd just sold an 8th to one of them. so he packed a bowl and i packed a bowl and we shared them. the third kid didnt join and just hit his vape by himself. then after we'd smoked 2 bowls, the kid with the vape asked me if i'd fill his vape with my weed. so i said thats cool, figuring we'd just vape the whole bowl pack. so i told the other kid who had the other 8th to pack another bowl. so we smoked the 3rd bowl and put my weed into the vape. then my friend w/ the vape added some of his own weed (not sure how much, just a little nug i think cause it didnt look like more filled or anything). so we passed around the vape, i got 2 hits but then my friend put it away or something and we didnt hit it again. and then my other friend packed another bowl and we smoked that, but still, like my friend kinda took my weed? like wtf? should i call him out on this or something?
First part: I personally woulda put in some of my own weed just b/c w/ the people I would smoke w/ everyone puts in if they're smoking. Like I'll pack a bowl of my shit & we all smoke it. Then the next person packs a bowl of their shit & we all smoke it, etc etc. So I wouldn't say its a dick move, but I always share mine if everyone else is already. Second part: Yeah, I would have kinda been pissed if I were you. I've had that happen before as well. It was me & 2 of my friends who were bro & sis & we were sitting smoking bowls & I packed some of my weed in2 1 of their bowls & like 1/2 way through my friend was like 'I'm good' & just put the bowl away w/o finishing it. I didn't say anything b/c it wasn't a huge deal-it was only like 1/2 a bowl- but I was still like umm, yeah just b/c it was in your bowl it was still MY weed. So yeah, I feel ya on that. I wouldn't call him out on it but if it happens repeatedly I would say something.
Humans are very good at detecting a moocher. Nobody keeps a mathematical total of everything they've contributed/gotten, but everybody knows who is the moocher and who isn't. There's actually some research done on it; google "cheater detection system." So, I would say that you shouldn't feel obligated to go tit for tat on every bowl, but the sum of your interactions should be fair and equal. There's no need to pack another bowl just to say you contributed if everyone is already high, but I'd be the first to offer to pack next time. If you feel like you're mooching, it probably time to kick in a little more. About the second question; I agree that he should have offered you to smoke some more before putting it away. However, again, you don't need to be tit for tat. IF you get the feeling that you're continually coming out on the short end, you might say somethign. In the end, though, its no big deal. Pot Karma is something I think is alive and well. I've smoked people out 10 times without the reciprocating and I've been smoked out by other people 10 times without reciprocating. But, in both cases, I think it worked out well for both people. Just aim to treat everyone fairly and be treated fairly in return. If one of you ends up a few bowls ahead or whatever, so be it, but roughly equal contribution is best. Cheers
yeah like im not super concerned with like "oh we smoked your weed last time but my weed the time before that its my turn now" or any of that, like i could smoke someone up a few times and then if they smoke me up a few times then thats cool. i was just sorta pissed cause i could have put the weed i gave him in a bowl and smoked it and gotten a decent high (if i was smoking it all to myself that is) but with a vape he could probably get himself high with my weed like 3 times... plus hes not smoking it with me, hes smoking it on his own. and yeah with the first one makes me feel better haha, i think i'll just have a bowl pack ready next time i hang with them
I agree with this pretty much 100%. You don't need to be all official, no one's record keeping, but if you feel the balance is way off then adjust appropriately. i.e. contribute more or speak up. between me and my buds we let the ganj flow pretty freely among us and trust each other. I guess it depends on who you're hangin with and how they look at the etiquette stuff.. I know everyone's different.
You don't always have to go throw in, but I mean if they're smoking you up, you gotta hit them back. This looks like a mooch situation, if people packed bowls and you have weed to you shouldn't be thinking "well they're high, I shouldn't use my weed" you should be thinking "well they just burned me down I should do the same so they'll burn me down still which will come in handy when I don't have weed"
Well if you have the weed you should pitch. But if you say you don't want to and the others still smoke you up that's perfectly cool.
Simple rule of life when it comes to weed. If you have some always share. Weed Karma Rocks, I have always found that when I am in need it shows up. If you have weed you should share. I understand the whole moocher thing but know one knows who they are better than a moocher.
1st part: you feel bad about it, so obviously you should do something different. but i might know what you mean. i have a friend who is a bigger pothead than me, so he's always smoking a bowl. i would only feel the need to smoke once every 2 or 3 hours. he's smoking every hour. so he usually packs it, and smokes it with me. but it's never really a discussion. sometimes i'll feel a little moochy, so i'll pack one up if i have weed. i'll stop him from packing it and say "i got this one" 2. what goes around comes aroudn but yea it kinda sucks, but you were high. you shoulda just said right then "hey lets smoke the rest of that vape"
For literally years I almost never bought weed & was always smoked out by my same friends. However I would always bring beer or some alcohol over 2 drink & if there was any left I would leave it @ their house/apt. However starting a few years ago once I started buying I had no problem smoking out the same friends that once smoked me out b/c its only fair to do that after them doing the same for me. However, as its been said before its not like we keep count & go tit for tat. But if we're all 2gether & everyone has weed we usually do switch it up & smoke some of what my friends have & then smoke some of what I have.
Man, I sized up your question, and I gotta say, I don't feel like reading the whole thing... But I will thow in my general aproach to stoner etiquette. Theres a few things on the internet that are way too detailed. Basically, for me it goes like this (the stuff I try to do and expect my friends to)... whoever is supplying the bud should let everyone get to their desired highness, within reason. And within your circle, go the duty of supplying should rotate, but it doesn't have to be exact.
Karma goes a long way with pot. What goes around comes around, don’t worry about keeping track of every bowel.
no lie, if you keep track of every time you smoked someone up or they smoked you up youll get a headache and have to smoke more. reducing the amount of weed you saved by usin a grinder
