dude i have lost opportunities as well, with girls shyness i suppose the only thing you can do is use that as a learning experience next time your in a similar situation (you will be) use that to remind yourself to seize the moment
Everything happens for a reason, everything that has happened was always going to happen, the reason will show itself, maybe soon, maybe not, but it will have been for a purpose that you didnt get his number. I hope this helps Maybe you didnt get with him because there is someone even more special waiting. Blessings xxx
This is my first post but i have been reading this site forever... years haha but ya i used to be shy a long time ago... but in your case dont live in the past... and if you like someone say it the worst that can happen is that you get rejected and no one but you will ever know. But if he likes you then i mean your set and you have a good start to a realtionship.
...and remember this - the longer you think (fantasise?) about him, the better he'll get in your memory and the more you'll regret your action. Heck, forget as best you can and learn from the experience. We could all tell similar stories, but you'd be bored to tears at the sameness. We grow, that's life.
i can relate. i learned that it's better to take a chance and go for it, still trying to follow my own advice. eace:
That's a really sweet story. Chances are that you won't see him again, but it's good that it the encounter did affect you so much. I started to really like this guy that was in one of my classes when he wore a "This is what a feminist looks like" t-shirt. I'm usually shy like yourself, but I came out of my shell to talk to him. We had really good conversations, smoked together, had coffee together several times after class. I assumed these coffee shop trips were dates, but apparently not... he has a girlfriend, and I saw them together at the flea market. Fake feminist, real player. I wish I could find love. Men are so difficult.
You're staying in school, so good for you. He doesn't sound like he'll provide much for anyone: he's a musician, so no money there, and he dropped out of school, which means he'll be flipping burgers for life.
I'd just forget about and move on. It's not good to obsess,unless you think you're gonna see him again. I used to be shy especially with girls, but I realized I may only see them at that moment unless things worked out. So might as well go for it. I hope this helped you.
cant be bummed about pass shit nothin can change about it but to be able to look back and learn from it is always good
No regrets, just keep livin. When I roamed around the country, there were a couple times when I met girls who wanted me to stay, for some reason I didnt, and I would probably be happier if I had stayed. But I didnt, cant have any regrets, just keep livin. Plus this is the internet age, if you remember his name see if he's on facebook.
Well, this sounds damn familiar. I've passed up so many opportunities to connect with someone, in a more permanent manner, "networking" you might call it, but more profound, simply because, I think I did not want to tamper with fate, and walked away from it. At the time, I felt that the exchange was the thing, not the clinging, the pursuing, the continuation, the mechanical stuff that might begin to ruin the "spontaneity". Now, I live with no small amount of regret over a lifetime of opportunities passed, believing that there are roads, doors opened to you along the path, and taking them would have made all the difference. But when it comes to taking phone numbers, getting out pad and pen, or such practicalities,,it just seemed much too mundane at the time. Maybe not, huh? To be clear, I did not hesitate at some of the moments, but in my own mind, not enough of them were pursued. But I am also of the opinion that the path shows itself more than once.
