why do women do this?

Out of nowhere, a long facebook status about how much she loves some guy. Does she not know how much in love I am with her? Does she not care? Why does she torture me like this? She says she cares about me, yet does this to me?? I don't even know what to say. I stare at the status and feel myself wanting to do nothing but crawl back into back and stay there until I'm forced to get up. Why must women be so cruel...

 

they don`t realise it...until some time passes and they realise their mistake. the mistake that they have hurt someone deeply.

but maybe she just dont care at all, not only at the moment. maybe after some time she will come back to you. maybe not.

 

what ive learned, find a girl who doesnt use social websites like myspace or facebook, it causes drama.

 

because women are retarded?

is that what you wanna hear?

 

Is she cruel, or are you a tool? That's the question.. you've been told a bunch of times to get over this girl.

She likes another guy. It's got nothing to do with you. Not trying to torture you, you're torturing yourself. Get over it and go live your life.

 

What he wants to hear is that somehow she will feel his pain when he read that and come to him on her knees begging for him to forgive her and saying she wants to be with him.

But, like your parents always said. Lifes not fair.
Get over her, find someone who treats you like you want to be treated.

 

your absolutely right acid, that is what i want to hear. and that is what i need to do. but how do u get someones face out of your mind? its like a tumor

 

don't get all cynical and shit
she loves another dude
and you're the one torturing yourself
live free man

you can get her face out of your mind by getting her off your facebook list for a start

 

You put another face in there.

 

oh right that's the healthy choice here
..not

 

I meant you find someone new, someone who is good to you.

 

my only question is. where? I have no friends who like to do anything but stay home and play wii. I don't get out at all, so I have no social connections to just about anyone.

 

Parties, Concerts, Raves, Clubs. There has to be a social gathering of some kind the youre interested in. And just talk to people, if youre shy/self conscious, accept rejection for a while, but it'll get better.

Just mingle till you hear a jingle.

 

Yea, but I am really shy. Like I just feel super awkward going up to a girl I don't know. I can't help but feel discouraged by the only reason of me talking to her being I like how she looks. and also the fact that other than that I have no business going up to her

 

You just have to get over that.
Have confidence in yourself.
If you don't like yourself, don't expect anyone else to.
Have confidence that she will think you are interesting, funny, cool, w/e.
And above all else, whoever you approach, just remember that they are human dude. It's just some girl, some confused wandering soul that is exploring existence, just like you are. Everyone has a lot more in common than they realize, we are all in this together, and you should not feel ashamed to start a conversation with someone.
And even if you do all that and it doesn't work, then don't get down. A fact of life is that YOU WILL GET REJECTED. But it isn't just you, this happens to EVERYBODY. Just pick yourself up and forget about it, and move on.

 

I know exactly how you feel. Its gonna suck for awhile. Like a tumor you have to try and remove it with many treatments. Try going to therapy and doing things that you love. Make sure they don't remind you of her. Move on with you life like she was never apart of it. Thats the only advice I can give.

 

I know exactly what your talking about MuchaGanja. I think a good thing for you would be to get closure because if you let things go unresolved there will be this lingering feeling of what if. The air should be cleared between the two of you and you should talk about it. If not it will drive you insane. If she refuses to talk to you about it then that should give you closure all the same because if she's that selfish as not to talk about how she hurt you or that type of thing then she wasn't worth it in the first place. Be warned though, if you agree to be just friends its almost a better idea to go no contact because if you truly do like her like it seems you do then the tumor won't go away it will just simply shrink.

 

Mucha...you need to improve your diet. Quit eating junk food and drinking sodas. Stop drinking alcohol altogether. If you smoke cigarettes, stop. Get your ass into the gym. Do 45 minutes of some sort of cardiovascular exercise followed by 45 minutes to an hour of weight-lifting.

You feel weak and shy because you are not treating your body properly. When you start treating your body right, you will have strength and energy to go out and do what needs to be done.

You're 26 years old, man! Quit being so easy on yourself! It's time to stop letting life suck.

 

you'll attract a lover if you cultivate love within yourself. how could you not? inner beauty is a radiant quality.

 

I agree was Dazed, get a grip! You're 26 man, you should know from high school that if a chick starts spouting off about another dude she's not into you, which means you are wasting your time. Plenty of fish in the sea, I suggest you try to catch one this isn't already hooked. If you're too shy online dating is alive and well, better than nothing bro.