question.....

i got in a great big debate with some fellow classmates about whether people chose to become lesbian/gay by choice or if their were born this way. I feel that for most they were born knowing that they were gay/lesbian because of studies preformed over past generations that showed that the percentage of gay/lesbian citizens remained fairly the same. I feel that if this is a fad then the percentage would rise and fall with the changing perceptions of the topic. Am i on the wrong side of the argument? Did you know you didnt like the opposite gender for a while or did you up and decide that you were gay/lesbian?

 

For me it was built in from the start. There was never a time of not liking the opposite sex, it's just that the attraction wasn't there. But the arguement itself is pointless because people will simply believe what they choose to believe. The ravings of various religions have done wonders to demonize GLBT people. Even if you never heard overt condemnation of Gays the institutionalized homophobia is just under the surface for many people. If it's not homophobia then it's xenophobia..fear of people or customs different from your own. But back to your original question, the idea to become gay didn't exist for me. It simply was hard-wired from the factory.

 

I also feel like it was just a part of me that I was born as gay. I have just never had the same attraction to a woman that I do to men.

 

Again with this thread? I supposed I'll humor you. I actually thought I was straight until I was 13, but I don't think I chose to be gay at this point. I think that this is just when my hormones started really working, and I realized what it was I wanted. I don't believe being gay is a choice though.

 

I love the opposite gender, they make great friends.

Dont worry about it for now sweetie, you wont start to work it out till after you have a bunch of kids, which hopefully you'll leave till after high school