How do you feel if -

someone is, in your opinion, good enough in every way; pretty much perfect for you. But it turns out that the feelings aren't mutual, and this person doesn't see you as special or amazing in any way.

It doesn't really happen to me, since I'm not an emotional person that 'falls' for people often... but one time, I was pretty much crazy about this boy, (I'd probably still get butterflies if I saw this boy, honestly) who really wanted nothing to do with me. I don't think I've ever felt worse in my entire life. I went from being a giddy girl with a crush, to pretty much feeling like I was the biggest piece of shit alive.

Just not being good enough - it has the potential to really destroy a person, imo.

I always wonder if I don't get myself caught up in relationships because I can't handle 'not being good enough' all over again.

 

I sound so emo.

 

i feel sad. then i feel sad and drunk. then i feel stupid because i just got on here and said some idiotic things in my sad drunken stupor.

 

My thoughts exactly.

Why did you let someone make you feel that way?

 

couldn't have said it better than this ^^^

 

If someone fails to see my worth it means they weren't good enough for me to begin with, because I know I am more than good enough for anyone.

 

I know exactly how you feel. I've felt this way only maybe once or twice in my life, but it's one of the worst feelings in the world, just knowing that there's nothing you can change about yourself that would make you good enough for that one person.

 

about how i usually feel.

lonely, mostly. vaguely sad

 

Nope, that captured it.

 

i will probably feel really bad, but i will brainwash myself that i don`t really like him that much. because in all honesty i believe that all that "he is absolutely perfect for me in any possible way" is pure brainwashing. so actually i will out-brainwash myself and this stupid situation will vanish!

 

I usually get a haircut and buy a shirt from Abercrombie.

 

I used to go head first into finding a person the greatest thing since sliced bread.
I'd be madly in love with them, just by the way they looked.
I would be upset if the person didn't feel the same way.
I would feel a little worthless and question what was wrong with me.
Then I realised I do the same thing to other people.
I too don't always feel the same way as the other person...
heck, perhaps sometimes their "pain" goes un-noticed...and - If I am really honest - I don't always think or care how the other person feels.
I hated myself for doing both.
So, now I edge myself into relationships...slowly getting to know a person and judging how they feel.
If the feelings aren't mutual I can deal with that, because I know how the person feels and can back off more gently if the feelings are not mutual (either way).
Obviously still a little crushed but much more able to cope.

 

oh yeah..i got the hint when she started sayin shit like...''you'll find a girlfriend soon''

 

i felt like a losah for a couple days...

then i moved on

 

When I made my OP, I didn't mean it in a sense where I was infatuated with his looks or upon meeting him was like 'man I think we'd be great together'

I'm talking about someone who I hung out with and talked to often, and was pretty good friends with. Someone who I'd flirt with and he flirted back. Who had a very similar mindset as me, liked a lot of the same music, movies, hobbies, whatever else. And I felt like, for the first time, I really, genuinely liked someone a lot.. more than a little crush, but as someone who I could honestly see myself with.

Only to find out that this boy had no interest in me.

And even though I know that if someone doesn't see how good of a person I am, it's their loss, not mine... it kind of drives me crazy a bit to know I could probably have anything that I wanted, with enough time/dedication.. except the interest of another human being. If someone isn't attracted to you, or interested in you, or whatever else -- you can't really change that. And if I tried to continuously change someone's mind about me, it would be pretty pathetic on my part, imo.

I don't know. It was such a long time ago that I haven't even talked to the kid in years... it still crosses my mind from time to time though.. (especially since we have some mutual friends) .. and I'm just like why wasn't I good enough? Why wasn't he attracted to me the way I was attracted to him?

 

Wish you would see that you are good enough.

But your are basing your value as a person on someone else's opinion.

I suggest that you are just fine how you are and if others can not see it, it is their loss.

 

I used to feel this way every time I had a romantic attachment for somebody. I completely overlooked their faults and put them on a pedestal, so that if I was rejected to them I was made to feel depressed at my complete lack of comparative worth.

I'm still yet to meet a person who still looks perfect in hindsight, although I have met some women recently who were close. Being older however I've learned not to let it get me down.

 

I don't think I've ever had that feeling...well, before being broken up with anyway. I usually could lure in just about any guy I really wanted enough to chase in high school, but most of those were short-lived romances. So, I pretty much felt like you feel like when you get dumped. Haha.

 

I feel terrible of course but I have learned a lot from my "downfalls" in relationships, I usually drink and smoke my problems away until I can eat. Once I get to the eating stage most of time I have everything figured out enough to move on, "well shit she's not interested, oh well plenty of fish in the sea." After each relationship I get tougher and tougher skin, sometimes it makes ya feel like "bitches aint shit but hoes and tricks". You live, you learn. Basically, if he doesn't realize what is under his nose he probably isn't worth your time at least that's how I look at things.

My $.02

 

Never let someone be your priority while you allow yourself to be their option.

Because someone rejects you, doesn't mean theirs something wrong with you. I was head over heels in lust with a lesbian in high school. Thought I was in love!

It didn't work. It doesn't mean I wasn't good enough. She just like vagina.

Can't win 'em all. I know it sucks.