So i met up with this girl a week ago. We sort of flirted and whatever over msn and she seemed really up for giving me head having never met me before or really know anything about me. So we meet at a local park car park, i get in her car and we talk for a bit and she gives me head. Great. Then after we chat a bit more and she asks if im looking for a relationship, and im not, but she is. But she sort of understood. We chat on IM again and met her again tonight, and she gives me head again. Then pretty much the same convo happens. She says how she cant seem to find anyone to have a decent relationship with. And i explain how im not looking for one. Then she jokingly says something like 'so im just a relief for you', and i dont really have an answer because i never said i wanted a relationship. I asked her on IM why she likes giving me head and nothing else. She just says if you're happy im happy for doing it for you :S I find the situation a bit weird. Does anyone else? I dont think i'll meet her again, but it makes me look as if i only wanted her for a bit of fun, and i never lead her on to believe any different.
i think shes desperately trying too hard and you should probably back off before you have a suicidal stalker on your hands.
Maybe. She does say stalkerish things. For example before i went back to my own car the first time we met she told me shes going clubbing the following saturday and will be booking a hotel room and said she would pick me up if i wanted and go clubbing with her followed by sex in the hotel room. Then tonight she suggested us sleep in my car some time after going clubbing and getting wasted
To be honest, you seem to have created this weird situation. If I organised to meet up with a woman so she could give me head...then i'd wonder what the hell I was doing. Not content with one meet up you arrange two...making this even more weird. Do the decent thing and don't talk about her giving you head again - perhaps then she will stop speaking to you. That's perhaps a good thing. I'm not suprised she finds it difficult to find a relationship if she is going around giving head to people she hardly knows.
Well she has had relationships but shes been cheated on and she said one ex locked her in his room with him because he wanted sex. Had i known all this before hand i would never have met up with her. She seems fine over IM though. My own fault really for meeting someone i dont know just for a blowjob. Shes already talking about meeting again though
I dont know but its not the mans fault if before she does anything with him, he specifically says that it is only for a casual encounter. No strings sort of thing. Surely if she cares that much she just wouldnt do it.
Perhaps due to her previous b/fs behaviour she may think the only thing men want and the only way to keep a man is to give him what he wants. It isn't always that she doesn't care she just might be in a pattern of sexual behaviour...which clearly isn't giving her what she wants. I guess she needs to change rather than you. I'm not trying to suggest you are a bad person for taking slight advantage of the situation presented to you...heck I probably would too. You were honest, I guess. You just have to extricate yourself from this situation with some grace.
she thinks if she can make you want her physically, she can make you want her emotionally. tell her when she stops looking so hard, mr. right will magically appear, and that you're not him
