Hey all, I was wondering what the lesbian community is like around where you live. Some things I was thinking were: What are lesbians like around where you live? Do you have a bunch of lesbian friends? Are their cliques within the lesbians around you? Are they all accepting and nice or catty bitches? Do you have a close group of friends like they do on the L word? What do you all do for fun and what kind of accepting places do you have around you for lesbians? So, i'll go first. Around here there are a lot of internet groups you can join to make lesbian friends in the community. I joined most of them just looking for something to do, and hoping to find friends and support. I'm a member of most of them, but there is one group that I really like and i've made a ton of friends from. So, now I have a bunch of lesbian friends. The cool thing about the group is we range from all ages. I'm probably one of the youngest, at 25 and the oldest is probably in her 60's. We have all ages in between. Most woman are in their late 20's to early 40's. We do things like have L Word night together, have pot lucks, go to different bars, have picnics, go camping, all sorts of stuff. So, are lesbians all accepting around me? NO! I find it horrible. You would think that already being a minority we would stick together and accept one another. But each little lesbian group can be mean as hell sometimes. I usually get made fun of, or i'm not accepted into groups because i'm "younger". So what to do around here? Well, i'm sure most of you have heard about the Michigan's Womyns Music Festival that is held here every summer. Bit expensive so I have yet to go. But it sounds really cool. There is a campground called Windover upnorth here that is for lesbians. I went a few weeks ago and had so much fun. There are a bunch of great lesbian bars and clubs around here too.
Theres a HUGE les community where i live , but i have noticed that the masculine Butch outnumber the fem's. We have a few bars that we hang out at.....
I live in a fairly small college town and there is a lesbian/gay community but it seems pretty difficult to infiltrate. There's one completely lame gay bar that no one goes to and I go to the coffee shop on Thursday nights because that's where they usually go to socialize after the GLBT club meets. I have been to the GLBT club but more people go to the coffee shop afterwards than go to the meetings. So far my luck has been pretty shitty. Any advice for a somewhat socially challenged, newly out lesbian?
I live in a town of about 7,000, which is part of a larger valley, (including Aspen, CO, to give you an idea). Attitudes towards homosexuality is very accepting, except no one really wants to "touch", for lack of a better word. Yeah, there is a lot of talk, but when it get rights down to it, no one really wants to do something supportive towards gays, such as start a GSA, or befriend homosexuals. We are a liberal valley, but yeah. I'm probably the only openly out lesbian in my high school. I'm very feminine, and have a hard time letting girls know I'm gay. I've dated two girls, both of which are the only other girls that are into girls in my town. Both feminine and very good looking. No one is really out of the closet here, except a few gay male friends of mine, (two). Overall, there is no gay clique. There is no community. There is no gay hangout. The Roaring Fork Valley in Colorado is definitely not somewhere you can meet others lesbians. I think it's because us haggard mountain folk are so cut off from society sometimes that we forget what homosexuality is. That, or there's something weird in the water.
I" live in a downtown urban town. Lesbians don't live here; unless they are coupled and have a local business. Many stay in certain suburbs around the city. In my opinion, there are three distinct geographic lifestyles, urban, suburban and country. I have more in common with country; but the ones I've met online are real homebodies and I'm not willing to leave my city to have a relationship of pizza and tv. I'm also not willing to spend the massive amount of money on corporations to live the suburban lifestyle. I have gobs of urban friends, big hearted people who are activists, artists, amazing and all straight. Whenever I meet someone lately since using the net, I find them boring and they seem to not be into me enough to discover another world from their life of first run movies, cookie cutter lifestyle and shopping and anti-depressant meds. I'm pretty cute, healthy, smart and loving; but not into the fem butch or bdsm or body politics, like must be tatooed or pierced or big. What's an urban bike riding urban gardening peace activist environmentalist hippie to do?
I live in a town of 10 000 by a city of 1 000 000, and there's hardly a lesbian community at all. The vast majority are over 30, and the rest are paired up. I'm beyond giving up on trying to become a part of the community. Most of the happenings are in the city, which is a 1 1/2 hour bus ride away, or $28 parking for the day. Most of the lesbians I know are hugely boring, or happily enveloped in a relationship, or just not a good match friend-wise, so I actually can't be bothered with it anymore. I'm really just going with the flow. All our answers have been pretty depressing thus far! I'd like to apologise for contributing to this, haha.
There's a big gay community here in general, but it's mostly made up of gay males. There's one gay bar here that hardly any lesbians go to and the ones that do have girlfriends already! I guess most lesbians here are so assimilated and such it's hard to find anyone. There isn't much of a lesbian community here at all. And if there is - I obviously can't find it!
More not so hot stats... The Gay Bars here host mostly men and older coupled lesbians. Most of the Queer Youth groups cater to people aged 15 to 20. I'm two years too old! The fact that I'm also an anarchist doesn't help. There is Queeruption, which was held here last year before I was "out." I missed a local opportunity to meet rad anarcha-lesbians!
I live in a smallish sized college town, and I'm only just now figuring out where to find the gay community (I'm 25). It seems to mostly be made up of people my age, which is awesome. There still aren't that many things as far as I'm aware, though. It's like the gay community here is almost invisible, and you have to know exactly where to go to get the info. Like... every friday at this certain bar it's actually been labeled 'queer night'. It wasn't labeled this by the bar, but by the people who started going... so now I know that every friday the bar will be filled with many gay or gay friendly people. Also, found out that every month we have a social, and apparently a fair amount of people go. It's like a drinking/bar type thing, kinda.... well I don't know exactly. I think I'm going to the first one next saturday. So yeah, where I live it's kinda difficult to become involved with the community since it appears to be... invisible! It's there, just like.... laying really, really low. As far a s gay or lesbian friends, I only have one gay friend who is a guy, and then I know some people who are kind of bi... and that's it. So hopefully if I get out to these socials and this bar every friday, then I will meet some more people!
I live in Georgia and can't find SHiT. The ones here are either young girls who don't really know what they want or the ones who want to stand-out by being overly butch. Where are the lesies who love being a girl who loves girls around here? Hm.
OK, so I've done some more looking around. The lesbian scene here is comprised of two main parts: -Sleaze -Geekatroids on steroids The sleaze is revolting. Everyone has slept with everyone, and will readily jump into bed with someone else. No regard for personality, etc. It's all about sex. As for the other half, I generally have no problem with geeks--I consider myself one, but this portion of the gay community is bordering on total social ineptitude. The jokes they make lack any wit, and they rarely show any signs of intelligence, although most of them are perfectly nice, friendly people. It's just not a friendship/relationship situation, because there would be no equilibrium; one person would always occupy an inferior position. I'm trying to word this such that I don't sound like a horrible, egotistical twat, heh.
I swear lesbians must be few and far between... lol. I am in Michigan and the only girls I run into are butches for the most part... I am a femine looking female with a kind of tom-boy personality.... I travel for a living all over the US and find it almost impossible to meet anyone... It's a real bummer.... Where are all you ladies hiding
