Hi there, Im new here and I am so confused... I really do need some help heres my situtation: Im 14 years old and im not sure about my sexuality.....To be honest I get turned on my women. I think that breasts are sexy and generally speaking I kind of think penises are gross. But I can't really see myself doing romantic things with another girl like kissing or holding hands. And heres were it gets weird, I feel threatened by most pretty girls I see. Instead of thinking "wow shes pretty" its usually "I bet all the guys look at her, its not fair" and I do find guys attractive romanticly I want to go on dates with them and kiss them but not have sex with them. But the last time I had a boyfriend It was really akward and didn't feel right. What does that mean? I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual but I want to know what some ladies with experiance think. And the thing is I don't want to be bi, I want to only like guys. Is it possible for me to burry that part of me and only date guys or is it hard? thank you -Kat
hi Kat. if you find that you're attracted to chicks, sure you can suppress that but it will cause you problems down the road. embracing yourself happens at different times for different people, but just know that you're lovely just the way you are. you still have lots of time to develop sexual feelings and attraction and honestly i wouldn't worry about what you're experiencing right now. when i was about that age i was discovering my bisexuality and it was a confusing time but i was sure that my feelings were real and worth embracing. you could be bisexual, maybe not. just let your feelings flow and acknowledge them, don't worry about labeling yourself. trying new things and keeping an open mind will help you find what you like and don't like. it's all part of becoming a woman and learning who you are. hope this helps somehow eace:
hey, i didnt know if you were still looking for advice on this subject. but i can definitely relate but im just a few years older than you when this happenned to me. i had the same feelings, to the "T"! i swear. and i tried to suppress them for 2 years, i went to two, three counselors, even christian counselors. and nothing helped. i started to not suppress the feelings and now im in the greatest relationship of my life! im just saying that maybe you should just let things unravel sometimes to get to the real answers. go for it!
Ciao! You know, as often as you might have heard it, what would really help is to stop thinking of your sexuality in terms of labels. Instead of fantasizing about some cool person you are attracted to, you are driving yourself nuts thinking about whether or not you are or should be or could be attracted to this guy or that girl. Maybe you are even asexual, you cant really know =) Just forget that, don't define yourself, go with the flow and if you develop a crush you will be thinking about that person and it'll keep you occupied. Even though I was attracted to girls forever long and had the first experience in 7th grade, all throughout my high-school and college I didn't know what I was. In fact, I still don't know. I dont really care. Everyone thinks I'm a lesbian and I am pretty gay. I do think of myself as a person who is madly attracted to women and LOOOVEESSS them, but hey, you never know. Maybe I fall in love with a guy and leave my friends (and myself) with their jaws hanging down. Hahahahha! Who really cares.
