Hi there! I'm bi (or at least that's what i think I am) male married with 2 kids. I don't have a bf or a guy that i meet often, so from time to time I just try to pic up on my straight friends or someone somewhere.. The problem is that I don't have much time so on the way home from work, I some time stop by for a quick search for someone, but every time I got bad feeling as of instead of running back home to be with my kids, I spend this time crusing around. Anybody else here having the same problem? what would you do?
I dont have this problem but i do think its shitty of you doing this as your married with kids...sorry but its true. Im bi myself but i would never get married, have kids and then go sneeking about looking for cock.
don't you ever want a wife,kids family?? So do you have to make a choice between a casual cock and a family????
You've both got it the wrong way around. Most guys that do the cruising thing , running around not looking each other in the eye, are married with or without kids , just that if there is somekind of conversation it will always be bullshit. Out gay guy wont have to sneak around, has a couple regulars if he needs that - make a call, go see a guy, tussle around in a warm comfy bed, or will just be mono with one guy. So most of the guys you encounter whilst cruising wont be what we would call gay, gay guys need the eye contact to determine how gay and what kind of gay you are. Most in the cruising scene would be bi or whatever you want to call it, they'll have wives or girlfriends. And thats what its all about, exclusive gay is somewhere around 2% of guys, there are a WHOLE lot more bi guys than gay guys (and same with the girls BTW)
I must agree with the VG here. I do not know about the 2%, or for that matter, I am not sure about any percentage here. Yet, there are cruising spots largely dominated by gay/bi men, (out completely, partially, or even not out at all...) who are cruising 4 sex there without any reserve. Not necessarily because they are out, but because they are single men, or men possibly living in open relationships. OUT or NOT, they are simply minding their own business and are not responsible for their actions to anyone else but themselves... And there are those other places, like one or the other ABS, rest areas, park cruising grounds, etc., where the mixture may tilt towards men who are in some kind of committed relationship, making their presence at such places 'illegitimate'. True, there is some truth in the old adage about that 'forbidden fruit', but it does not take any great wisdom however, to understand that you CANNOT live all your adult life even with a modicum of personal fulfillment, if all of it is based upon the 'forbidden fruit' idea... Finally, most of us know, what's right for both those around us and ourselves... It only takes a considerable courage and some guts to take that path...
No, I'm just saying you are far from alone in your predicament, are you from the US, I didnt check, "on the down lo" I believe is the correct term, even Oprah had a episode on it once. Dont ask me for a percentage, no one really knows, as guys are like secret agents when it comes to this stuff. My advice, I have none, its supposed to be naughty, wouldnt be exciting if it wasnt. Thats not the real trippy part though, the real trippy part comes in 2 kickers: A) Your wife knows, they always know, at very least she catches you checking out the odd guy B) You still have to work out the female version of "on the down lo", there are just as many of them and its really really sneaky. Hint: Its a lot closer to home, just how close may come as a big big shock when it dawns on you (*giggles)
#1 Spend as much time with your children as possible. #2 Being married and with kids, you have to be out of your mind to be cruising for dudes. #3 Unless your wife is acceptable of your actions, your'e a cheater and that sucks.
Yeah I'd love a family but i wouldnt get one and then go cruising and cheat on my wife. Being bisexual isnt an excuse to sleep around. If this guys wife knows about it and is cool with it, fine, fair game, what they do is their business. The way I see it, is that if he really loved and respected his wife and his 'cock craving' was that strong, he should tell her.
What a load of hogwash, bi or straight most married guys cheat, so do most married girls Either side would get so frigging jealous if they really did trust the partner
straight married guys/girls cheat, nothing to do with me being Bi, and BTW I do not consider it cheating, unless I will do with with other women. for me the m2m thing is just a thing, and its on/off, I'm not looking for a boyfriend and will never leave my family for any other men/women. its not the wife I worry about, its the time with the kids and the guilty feeling I got about it, but then again it could happen to a straight married guy as well. for those who believe its wrongly doing, well... I just can't help it (and I'm sure that you two!, so those bi that say they will never do it, then what will you do?????) because if I could choose, I would rather be Gay then Bi, at least with gays they don't have to wonder about. Me and my wife used to hang out the gay bars/clubs and do crazy things, after the kids born and the busy live we got, I guess we got old, my wife is no longer into parties, shes busy with the kids and somehow happy with it. Me, I guess that I just can't grow older then 18(lol...) I still enjoy parties, clubs and bars.
