Imagine how much money you'd save by avoiding parenthood.

In my face!

 

Some people find their joys in simpler things than material possessions. Money makes things easier and less stressful, sure, and I've been in relationships with guys who were well off, guys who were rich, and guys who were poor. And it just seems like the poor life is the life I'd rather live. You appreciate life a lot more when you have to rely on basics for happiness. I was a spoiled child, I had all the toys I ever wanted, nice clothes, food in my belly 3 times a day every day plus snacks, I was very well taken care of. But our family took a lot for granted until my mother got sick and lost her job as a result, and then spent years of my childhood near death. Even though things got scarier and more stressful, I think I got a lot more out of that life than the cushy life I previously enjoyed.

 

it's not about being rich, it's about being responsible and having your priorities in order...

kids take all of your time and all of your energy, since i'm a human I have abilities to adapt to new circumstances at any given time so for me it's just how life is now....

what do you mean a happy and fulfilling life?

you mean do i still have good sex? fuck yeah

do i still go out on the town once in awhile, you bet your ass i do.

am i still capable of carrying mature adult conversations (for the record though, id rather talk to my 6 year old who is far more intelligent, creative, and down to earth than most adults i know)and socializing with other adults.... yup....i can still do that

i think it all depends on what you consider to be a happy and fulfilling life, for me I am more than content with all the love and new things i learn everyday from these glorious little creatures....if you mean living selfishly and materialistically than kids probably arent for you.

 

I'll keep that in mind.

 

you have a choice:
have dogs, and ruin your carpets
have children, and ruin your life

 

OH fucking SNAP

 

You don't need to make that one for a long time. When and if you get married, my best advice is to take some time to do some fun things with your husband and learn how to be married before rushing to add kids to the situation, if you ever do. There's no rush to do anything. You have the rest of your life to do whatever you want. The world will survive, one way or another, no matter what you do.

I'm sure you would agree that all the people telling her what her priorities should be can go fuck themselves. Nobody knows what your priorities need to be besides yourself.

 

And thank god for that.

 

Not till she buys me a rock.

 

Don't have kids then. Your call. No-ones going to cry about it

 

Yeah, there's nothing more embarrassing for a guy than getting knocked up by a girl, without a ring.

 

Cheaper to raise them than to pay child support.

 

A-men. This guy I used to work with had two little ones whose moms took off with them. He had to throw down 50% of his check every two weeks for them. I can't imagine having 4 or more.

 

On ABC News this morning, they said that a kid born this year will cost almost $300,000 to raise to age 18. That's not allowing a penny for college.

Other than having two kids, what else could you do with $600,000 ?

 

I guess it all comes down to what you want from life. We all want different things. I would love to have a child but I understand those that don't want them. They are a lifetime commitment after all.
When I do have a child I cannot honestly see myself worrying about a world cruise or a fancy car but then I am not everyone and those are not what i am particularly into.

 

No. At least, not all of them.
In fact, working with children is more than enough for me.
The odd thing is that my choice to not have them is exactly what would make me a decent parent. It is the most responsible choice for my life.
I used to think I'd make a terrible parent, until I began working with children. Now I see just how useless many parents are on a day to day basis.
I'm glad that PR added the word many to his opening sentence.
It's really fucked up that people that choose not to reproduce rather than drag a child through their rocky relationships and rough financial straights should have this kind of opinionated BS levelled at them.
I've been the target for lots of fucked up comments and criticism... So much that I've actually told some people that I'm sterile... But, then that leaves open the possibility of the oh you poor dear attitude.
I wish people would just be cool and recognize that parenthood is just that, a choice.(excluding accidents here) Nobody is necessarily a better or worse person for making that choice, be it to have kids or not have them.


If you have children and you take the time to explain things to them and you raise them well, more power to you. May there be a bright future for you all. :cheers2:

 

I'm pretty happy with my decision to have children.

Family is where it's at.

 

Feed Africa.

 

No, I'm talking about sustaining humankind and our achievements. We are not at war with sub-Saharan Africa

 

Whatever.

 

Yeah, but they won't talk about WHY stuff costs so much and how people's money is being devalued while they're sold up the debt river.