break-up revenge?

thanks for the advice; everybody who genuinely contributed. the rest of you, i don't really care...

 

The most important thing is that even though you love him and he loves you, that you know he isn't good for you. It's good that you figured that out so quickly, then you wont be wasting time.

 

On the other hand, it could backfire if he says, "Well I'm dating YOU. If I have no taste, what does that make you?"

 

On the other hand, looking at an attractive woman isn't necessarily NOT eye humping. Maybe he really does eye hump other women, maybe he does not.

 

lol my point would still stand I snore!

Theres a difference between looking at someone as a causal glance and at someone. And repetitive looks aren't needed.

 

lol that's not so bad if your partner snores as well - just like me and my wife.:cheers2:

 

Oh he snores

 

Sarahrei, I would dump your ass for blaming your insecurities on me.

Looking at other women is simply looking at other women. People CAN change in a relationship, if they aren't too callous and selfish to realize when THEY are causing unneeded problems.
I was jealous once, I saw that it was unfair and harmful towards my girlfriend - I stopped period.
I hate that it's okay for women to ask men to change, or even consciously attempt to edit his behavior like he's a fucking dog "After a few of those, the problem usually stops. ", but anytime the idea comes up of a woman needing to check their behavior..

It's in human nature to find other people attractive. Him looking at another girl says nothing about you, it says nothing about his respect for you, it says that he's human. If it bothers you, instead of getting angry at him, explore it within yourself - why should something like that bother you, what isn't quite right there? Or is it the relationship? Why are you with someone you can't even trust to look around?

 

This looks to be an evil thread, sounds like the guy has enough securities. Pay someone to kick his ass, I've never cheated on a girl but....looking at people can mean nothing other than observing. I have known guy friends that just have it easy, they really don't realize their fears.

 

All guys look at other women

You don't know that woman is stupid, you're just judging her because you're angry at your ex-boyfriend. That's stupid

If your ex is that much of a loser why didn't you leave him sooner. And if he really is all those things you say he is, what does that say about you? After all, you went for him. Also, to be honest you just come off sounding like every other angry, bitchy girl who's pissed off for no reason. You left him, now go do whatever it is you want to do. Leave him alone, move on, and don't whine to much about it. Why is that a girl will break up with a guy, then be pissed off at him for it? To be honest, I'm surprised he didn't dump you.

 

duck and lunar are saying what i was trying to tell you without sounding harsh.. listen to them chica and find peace in yourself and love yourself first. avoid judging others, especially when it comes to natural behavior...

 

you know, i am "psycho". and now i know why i am "psycho", and what i can do to change it. ...oh yay, hooray!

and for those of you who just decided to be douchebags, offering no advice at all, maybe someday you'll have a daughter that's in my shoes and you'll feel like a piece of shit. you know, being mean to people is a good way to cover up all the widdle pains you have inside...it's such an easy, cowardly way to get by.

(warning: this may be ironic coming from me.)

 

People have been giving you advice you just don't seem to like it and you are getting angry at them for giving the advice you don't want. Then don't ask. Personally I think you should stay out of the relationship and figure out who you are first.

 

ugh.

 

You are maturing as you should. If this was the best guy you ever dated, then that means you have learned from previous mistakes and have raised your standards. You now have even more criteria to consider before deciding if the next guy will become your next boyfriend. Keep at it until you find someone that is compatible with you and fulfills all of your needs. Your next relationship is also your chance to work through your trust issues and insecurities. If you can't ever feel secure in a relationship, then you will never be in one for long. Of course, that doesn't mean you should be secure in every relationship either. You just want to have your act together when you do meet Mr. Right, or else you'll scare him away.


You're too young to settle down anyway. Don't worry about the looser that got away?

 

If you don't mind me asking, why do girls go through this. Sounds your boy is a jerk, but why can girls never make up my mind. My girl left me, not because of anything I did, or because she wants another relationship, but because she wants to be young, have fun, and flirtatious like yourself. If you love the man you are with why not be with him?? Girls always think there someone or something else better out there.

 

i think it's because us women base our decisions more off of emotion, than what's going on in our mind.

maybe your girl left not because of something you did, but maybe because of something you DIDN'T do. she may just want to have fun, or she may want to see if there is an opportunity to find something "better". if it's meant to be, she'll be back...

 

See I don't think I believe that anymore. I do believe the universe has seen our future or that it has already happened mainly due to psychedelics but that doesn't mean we don't create our own destinies. Nothing is meant to be, we create and destroy our own lifes based on our actions. If I cheat on her, but it is meant to be, does that mean we will still work out, doubtful.

WE CHOOSE our mates by our actions, magik and fairy dust aside, relationships only happen, soulmates only stay together if they work at it. Her choice or my choice could make the difference of whether either of us find the same type of connection again. In my experience when one person leaves to "find something new" it is over, not because they weren't eternal lovers but mainly because the conditions of being away and trying to forget make it almost impossible for that love to be rekindled. Hell, look at the divorce rate,or the couples who stay together even with no love, these were not meant to happen yet they did and they continue. I'm not saying its impossible to find the one person in the world who is "it" over everyone else and you will always come back to them but so many factors are out there including finding another person who we think makes us happy but doesn't (divorce, bad marriage), that even if we are: "meant to be," unless we try it won't happen.

Choosing to ignore a love you both agree is itself magical, and beautiful out of the confusion that the grass is greener, or that you are too young to not try other avenues may cost you the "one." Sure we always find someone new who may or may not be a new love, but you always have that wonder what if. And no, it wasn't because of something I have or haven't done, sounds egotistical, but it is because I was her first and she needs to validate the love first by searching the world, but of course she says: "I will be back"
I'm sorry to sound bitter but I see this all the time with younger girls who don't know what they want until its too late. My friend lost his wife because of this confusion only for her to come back asking for forgiveness for being stupid. He didn't accept her, nor should he have. Now they are both lost lonely, because she gave up something amazing out of curiosity. But such is life I guess, us monkeys never know what will make us happy, and we spend our entire life looking over the fence for it.

 

Know that you are entitled to happiness and accept nothing less. Yes, the feelings you have are REAL, and they are POWERFUL. The qualities that attract you to this guy can be found in others as well. Beware falling into the "no-win" situation of accepting him the way he is, then trying to change him into the man you wish he was. Put some time/space between yourself and this person until the pain subsides. Once is does, and YES it ALWAYS does, perhaps then it will be easier to accept the fact that you're subjucating your needs and desires to accomodate his thoughtless, hurtful behavior. YOU DESERVE BETTER!

 

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