Alright, so here it goes: When I first started at my job, I had a crush on my shift leader. (I work at a pizza place.) But, I had a boyfriend at the time so I ignored it. Well, in June, I became single again, and my feelings for this guy overwhelmed me. So, I told my closest work friend, Lorraine (who happens to be his roommate). Lorraine explained to me that Jon, the guy I have feelings for likes me also. So for about a month we hang out together a couple times a week, until last week when I decided to finally talk to him about "us". I told him I thought he liked me but I wasn't sure. He told me he did but he just got out of a 4 year relationship (He's 24). That I was attractive and chill to hang out with. Well a couple days later he texts me saying "I wanted to make sure you didn't take it personal, being with me wouldn't be fair to you right now, all I can do is friends with benefits for now." So what heck? Can anyone tell me what this means? He used to text me all the time asking to hang out but not in the last couple of weeks. Also, I'd be able to manage if I didn't have such big feelings for this guy. I've never felt like this with anybody else before. Thanks in advance.
Z'zactly. Leave your feelings at the door. He's made his intentions plain. Find someone else. Go to work to work. Don't get confused.
It means take it slow. He's put up some walls because he got hurt. He still working out some issues, but he likes you. How is he supposed to commit to you if he's still longing for his ex of 4 years? Hang out and see where it goes. Just don't do stupid things, like writing Mrs. YourName HisLastName. Don't get possessive. Don't call him five times a day. Don't take offence if he just wants to be alone sometimes.
