Is this true? (Q for guys)

So I've been living with my current rommate for about a year now. We met when he moved in. Now we're pretty good friends, and in the beginning, we'd pointlessly flirt now and then, but then he kinda started being a dick (it's a long story) and we were weird for awhile.

Anyway, for the last month, since I've found out I'm moving out, he's been nice to me again. Last weekend, we were talking, and he brought up the topic of masturbation, so we talked for awhile about that. But then his friend came over, and that was it. Now, my therapist (I'm in therapy for other reasons, but anyway..) who's a guy, told me that guys don't talk about masturbating with girls unless they're interested in them. I'm almost positive he's into me, because of some other stuff, but I've also recently talked about masturbating with other guy friends that have always been platonic with.

So...Is this true? Guys, would you talk about masturbating with a girl you were friends with but had no romantic or sexual feelings for?

 

No, well I guess it depends on the context, but for the most part no.

 

Honestly yes. I have some very close lady friends, and everything is open for discussion between us. What your psych. told you is a good rule of thumb, but when it comes to longtime friends it's up to you to decipher their intentions.

 

It doesn't sound like a good way to get a romance going.

 

Nah, I don't mind talking about sex and masturbation with platonic lady friends although I do try not to share too much information. Like, I don't give out a blow-by-blow account of how I jerk off to porn or what position I like, etc. I'm more detailed here, and I don't even give away everything.

 

With me, I might talk about it if I'm really comfortable with a girl. I usually won't bother bringing the topic up unless I have sexual desires/intentions for the girl I'm talking to. However, it is true about the friendship thing. i have a long term female friend. She and I talk about that stuff (not in detail) and I don't have a sexual desire for her.

Hope this helps.

~Big A

 

Your therapist is an idiot. I have several platonic female friends, we have zero interest in any sexual encounters and we hold nothing back. I could tell you when their menstrual cycle starts and what brand of tampon they use. They could tell you the names of thelast 3 women I slept with and probably details of what we did.

 

Doubtful - there would have to be an intimate relationship, or at least intimacy on the horizon.

 

It all depends on the individual friend.

Some of my friends are extremely prudish, so even the very idea of mentioning anything sexual would be a no-go subject, whereas others are just as equally liberal minded & enjoy discussing the subject about sex & masturbation - and that doesn't mean that I have to be in some kind of sexual relationship with them.

 

of course. why would you tell someone you fancied about your masturbation?? its no biggie with a friend tho....

 

sort of, i sometimes talk to a really good friend of mine. she asked me if i'd fuck her, and i didnt know what to say, lol (i think she was joking)

 

i talk to a chick i went work with bout masturbation and just sex in general sometimes just coz i'd fuck her and wanna see what sees into, it usually ends with me havin a wank over something she said

 

Any of the girls that I've talked about masturbation with, I've been at least somewhat attracted to. Some of these guys disagree, but I would say more likely than not.

-Whoops old thread, he may have slipped it to her by now.

 

I would not feel comfortable talking about it if I initiated the conversation. However, I would have no problem talking about if someone else was asking me about it. I've actually had girls ask me about. It just seems weird that it didn't bother me talking about. All in all, I don't think it changed anything.

 

My 2 best friends are females, and we're open to each other about the topic. I was totally surprised that I could talk to them about masturbation, and vice versa. I was the one to initiate the topic of conversation lol, and they ran with it lol.

 

it depends on what kind of friend you are to him.
i would only talk to a girl about masturbation if i was interested in her or if she was a really good friend who i had known for ages and felt like i could talk to her about anything. anything in between and i probably wouldnt even consider it. i suppose most guys are the same.
what sort of things did he bring up when you were talking about masturbation?

 

in school one time a girl asked me if I jack off and I said hell yeah

 

I've spoken about sexual preferences and acts with women I've known who I've not been in a relationhsip with, though never about masturbation.

 

I woudl talk about it on a boat, in a moat, with a goat, in a plane, on a train.... You know the rest.

 

I talk to everyone about everything.
If I talked to a girl I liked (or just thought was hot) about masturbation, I'd most likely make a nod to masturbating about her.

I'd say find a new therapist.