my bf and I have been trying to do anal for about a year, with no luck. He kept slipping out, stuff like that.well, the other night, we both got kinda drunk and started going at it regularly. He slipped out and it kinda....aimed itself, slipped into my backside and it worked! I was at the point where I didn't feel any pain, so we went at it. (I figured the juices we accumulated during the vaginal sex would be enough.)but the next day he told me he had chaffing on his member! I looked at it and felt so bad!I was really wet, too.....how much lube is actually needed for anal? just so I know for the future! LOL.
Why should you feel bad, that means you have a REALLY tight ass! The chaffing probably occured because you didn't add any lube, you just used vag juices, and sometimes it's not enough, especially if you are new to anal. You will have to play it by ear, and just try different amounts, but it's better to have too much than not enough IMO. I'd recommend you use a silicone based lube, that seems to be what many women prefer. I prefer oil based, but that's just me.
"When you think you've applied enough lube, use double that amount" Don't remember where I first read that statement but it's pretty much accurate. Vaginal secretions dry up quickly. Without re-applying something and going at it in a drunken state, I can see how he'd get a bit scraped up. (or you for that matter) Yeah, just be sure to use LOTS of lube. I've had the slippage problem too because of the lube but if you make sure you're well prepped it doesn't hurt to keep trying until it goes in.
Use PLENTY of lube next time, and this shouldnt be an issue, and perhaps use fingers or toys to help get things ready for it to be a little easier to get in
He's complaining about chafing? Who cares, if you chafe it means it was really tight and/or vigorous... Which usually means awesome. Tell him to quit being a pussy.
I agree, if I fucked a girl in her ass, and I got chaffing, that's a good thing. Like Magnetic said, it means either you have a very tight ass, which is great. Or your boy friend got all up in that ass, and has some battle wounds to show for it, which is also awesome. Either way, it means you can take a thrashing and/or you have a super tight butt, both qualities men admire. I remember when I got a chaffed dick from anal one time, but I knew why, that ass was drum tight and I tore it up. As long as your butt doesn't hurt it's all good, I am sure a little chaffing will not deter him, it didn't deter me, that's for damn sure. If your man complains about your tight butt, keep it away from him for a few weeks, he'll be begging for a chaffed dick again. To me getting my dick chaffed by a tight ass is like bragging rights, "man, my girls butt is so tight when I fucked her in it, it chaffed my dick." I wouldn't worry about it, I am sure your man is just happy he got some of that obviously tight ass, and he'll be back for more. Just use lube this time, and that should take care of the problem.
