How many gay guys do you think say they are bi because its easier or more 'acceptable' ? I am gay, but i could date a women, sleep with a women (i have) totally appreciate a beautiful women...but i could never love a women! to be attracted to them its impossible for me. I believe alot of guys say they are bi so if the going gets tough, they can go back to girls! and why i think this is not out of any ignorance but its what i contemplated on doing myself before i came out!
id say coming out as bi is more difficult than coming out as gay, some people just dont believe in bisexuality and assume your gay but havnt got the bottle to come out 'completley'...well thats what i think anyway lol
Maybe, but from my perspective i thought it would be easier and i was very close to deciding to do that
Who knows? No doubt, some guys go by the 'not gay but a bit of bi' to indicate that they are very cool, tolerant and still on the 'right' track. To some being bi is more acceptable (or less repulsive) than being gay alone. You'll also come across guys who see a bi dude in a m2m relationship as an automatic top. Wrong as this may be, people choose a certain fiction and then stick with it...
I agree. Bis get hate from both the straight and gay sides. Women tend to look down on bi men too. Like they'll get HIV if they fuck around with a man who has sex with men. Or he is less of a man because he has sex with men. It would be easier just to be totally gay.
You got that right and the misconception bullshit you get from your gay brothers who accuse you of being too afraid to admit you're gay is very irritating. They are of the same ilk as the ignorant homophobes who don't "believe" homosexuality is a natural orientation and say it's some perversion that can be cured with aversion torture. I resent the gay bigots more than the str8 because they should know better than to make presumptions about another's sexual identity. I have been definitely bi. I was married to a woman for a couple decades and had a loving relationship with her and great sex. Before that in the '70s I had a partnership with a man and did a lot of guys and girls in the free luv days, enjoying them both equally. I have not been with a woman for a decade now, while having sex with several guys so I might be gay. IDK, does it really matter. For those who do not "believe" in bisexuality, I have always said it is just semantics. When I am sucking cock I am gay and when eating pussy I am straight. Saying "Bi" is just a more shorthand way than trying to figure out why a str8 guy sucks cock or a gay guy eats pussy.
Yeah, being bi is not at all more acceptable. You get shit from both sides. And you constantly have to come out again and again. Some people met you when you were with a girl, and then they're like what the hell when you're with a guy. Or you come out to your parents and introduce your boyfriend, and then you get a girlfriend and they think it was a phase and are confused when you get with a guy again...
What astounds me is that so many gays think nothing of asserting their right to their sexuality but if someone else says they are bi it must be a lie? Who are gay people's place to say what someone else's sexuality is? Sexuality runs a whole gamut from straight, gay, bi, transgender and transsexual. Everyone of them is REAL. No Lie.
Its not really that, they know you arent one of them, they are just trying to pull you over to their side (half the reason for that is so you dont stuff around the girls feelings) , same thing with the girls when they find out a beefy guy is gay, they do that oh, you just need to find the right woman thing, or they try pretend they think he's only gay cos he never had a girlfriend even though they are fully aware he's probably had plenty of girls throwing themselves at him. Its like that layers on layers, plans within plans, what is said upfront is not the way it seems. They all know gay before puberty is a different thing to the guy that comes out after 10 years of marriage and two kids and starts to call himself "gay", It might be gay to everyone else, but they never are, exclusive gay anyway, they are always doing girls in secret. And that stuff from your straight male friends is more about trying to hide from their wives that bi guys exist, even though the wives are usually a couple steps ahead of them
When I was a young man in New Orleans, openly identified as bi, a girl in a bar took me home with her. We had dinner and I was to sleep over. When I made moves on her she reminded me that I was gay. I said no, I'm bi, which means I do women. We did have sex, but I don't know what her original idea was. Did she want a gay guy to sleep with and not have sex, or was she playing the game that she brought me back to the het side?
This is a very good point. Being 'bi' is something that matters to the person who identifies him/herself with being 'bi'. For a gay guy who is messing around without any serious relationship prospect with a bi guy, the bi dude is functionally a homosexual. The fact that some time ago, this dude may have had a sex with a woman, dildo or a broom handle is really of little interest to the gay dude at hand. Equally so, if a bi guy is having a casual sex with a woman, for her, he is a hetero dude. She does not know that you have sucked dick recently, and even if she knew, she can't change that, and that is after all, none of her business. She wants her orgasm, and hopes that you can bring her there. In reality, being 'bi' is of very little functional importance to either gay or str8 folks within the context of casual sex.
