i think im gonna try to get pregnant

I agree,,, good luck trish, I am sure you will make the right choice

 

Watch this tape first

 

awww but i was gonna ask you to volunteer.

 

Well we could always practice

 

i know that no one will ever listen to me
but for all of you that want a child and are able to adopt i enncourage you to do so

adoption is a wonderful thing

just think about it

 

aiiiiyyy, i'd hold off for now trish.

 

Trish I love ya and all but I cant tell you how bad of an idea this is...
You say that you cant afford this and that, and then you want to bring a baby into it..I know that some day you will make a wonderful mom, just not right now.
You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else, especially a baby..

 

I have to agree with Mystical on this. Trish you're smart and school and work and getting better should be number one priority.

 

My first reaction/thoughts when I read your original post was: Quote: "Dan doesn't know yet"; ummm deciding to have a baby should be a mutual thing discussed between two people prior to getting pregnant! How unfair/disrespectful to Dan to try to get preg and not have talked with him first!
Then I read what a few others had to offer....and see that someone out there knows your situation better than I do, and all I can say is, if drinking and drugs is an issue for you, you have NO buisness having a baby until you are clean and serious about remaining that way! It sounds to me like you are looking for something else to fill a void you must feel. I can understand that, but it is certainly the wrong reason to bring a child into a disfunctional situation! And furthermore....if you are in a financial bind, then certainly a baby isn't a wise idea right now. The guilt you will feel as a parent, for not being able to do for him/her the way you would like is a horrible feeling! So, I sugjest you seriously reconcider your choices here & wait until your life is Stable!

 

i think it's really beautiful that you want a baby, trish. they're a wonderful part of the life of the people prepared for them. but i recommend for your beloved baby's sake that you wait until you've gone through rehab and have had some time to process it. i grew up with alcoholic parents, and i love them very much, but i had to leave them far far away in order to live. you don't want your baby to grow up and leave you because your best at the time wasn't good enough. you gotta love yourself completely first, and i don't think you're quite there yet. i will pray heavily for your strenth. though it is true there's no perfect time to have a child.

 

I personally think you should wait. At least wait until you are finished with school. That way you don't have to balance a job, school, and the full time job of having to take care of a baby.

 

First of all... since everyone just LOVES to criticize me... i am sober. i have been sober for over a week and am going to stay that way. money is already getting better....

second of all, this thread was kinda a joke... since someone posted out where i wrote "dan doesnt know it yet but ill inform him tomorrow"... duh!!! hello? i wouldnt try to get pregnant without him knowing. that is just silly.

and i wasnt talking about tomorrow. i was talking about in the next 6 months. im not insane.

now go on and criticize and better yet JUDGE me even know....

cause you all know me SOOOO much better then i know myself.

 

trych. we are not judging or criticizing you. your right, you know your situation better then anyone else, but since you posted here that means you want others input. we all love you and just don't want to see you do something that will not only affect your life but dans and the childs. having a baby and a husband and a problem as serious as drinking and trying to keep a job and trying to go to school is too much for anyone to do. i think that a baby would just complicate things for you at this time in your life, i think you'll be an awsome mother but i also think that right now there are things you have to work on before you step up to that role.

 

well, i am waiting. 6 months to a yr.... dan and i have already discussed that before.

i think if i can go that much longer without drinking, then ill be sure i can trust myself.

i just love it though how there are people i dont even know OF putting me down... or at least that's how i see it.

but anyways, thanks everyone for the advice.

 

i dont think anyone was putting ya down trish. well, cept for me

theyre just sayin to wait till your lifes in order. how much school you got left?

 

I concur with migu, I dont think anyone was putting you down either...
they just didnt want to see you make a huge mistake..But its your life and you can do with it what you like...

 

no no no trych. nobody is putting you down. we are just worried. like i said having a baby right now wouldn't be a good idea, babies don't fix things and thats what alot of people think they do.

but i realize now that you are waiting or planning on it. i thought you were gonna start trying right away, but if it is future talk then GREAT!! babies are awsome and i'm excited about when i finally get to have my own.

i think you just need to take stuff one at a time. but really it's up to you and you know we luv you.

 

hah...um, too fucking long.

but that's the joy... i could go to school part time and stay home with the baby for a few years.... well, actually, now i can stay home but with an added expense id prolly have to work...

okay, im throwing out this idea- i dont wanna work.

 

Well if that's what you want interval, good luck.