How Many Of You Live By Yourselves?

Whoa. Your mother doesn't sound like a very nice person.

Is it entirely out of the question to go stay with your father?

I like to think I'd get out of that situation, maybe find someone looking for a roommate or something. It is possible to live quite cheaply.

 

I could stably live on my own right now.
I have a full-time job that brings in about $1400 a month, which potentially could be a lot more, since I can have all the over-time I want.
The only thing that is holding me back is that factor of saving up money for school.

 

This is really bothering you, eh, Neo?

 

Neodude, I would find some a nice group of people to share with. In my experience you have about a 50/50 chance of landing yourself with somebody decent.

It sounds like you need to get as far away from your mother as possible. I have lived with strangers and have had mixed experiences. I certainly recommend it if you want to save money and meet new and interesting people.

If you're set on living alone maybe you should try to stay with your mother until you can't stand it anymore. That way you will have saved up the money you need.

EDIT: And I am sorry about you having to go through that. Did you suspect that she would ever pull such a stunt?

 

She's a self-righteous bitch, to be perfectly honest.
I could go live with my father, but that would mean moving all the way back to Georgia. I've already found a good job out here with opportunities that could really help me out in the future, and I've developed some sort of "plan" that feels very right and would like to give it an honest chance.
The roommate thing would be an amazing god-send at this point, but everyone I ever knew all live back in Georgia. I have no social life in this cultural wasteland of a state, and don't know a single person.

 

I dread coming home every night after work because I know there is an argument waiting to explode.

 

If you want badly to get out.. then I'd say leave.
You could probably find a cheap place to live, and take out loans for school.

 

in that situation, I think I would leave. what do you do for work? have you thought about getting into serving or bartending? the money can be really good, and it's generally flex with school.

anyway, best wishes man. I live on my own but seem to be couch surfing half the time. or living rent free/low rent such as my current situation. this feels like the worst time to be young and trying to 'make it' in the world.

 

You deserve to be happy! Do what you think will make ya happy.

 

Tough decision.
You really only need to figure out one thing for yourself...
It sounds like hell living with your Mom and half sisters.
Do you think they'll allow you to suceed?
Or will they do everything in their power to obstruct you acheiving your goals by creating a completely hostile environment for you..?
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I've already been in a similar situation, & I feel for you. Hang in there, mean people suck.

 

At this point I'd almost be willing to take a chance on a complete stranger, even though that has always been a situation that seemed a bit harsh. I'd like to get to know someone very well before trying to live with them.
But yeah, I agree roommates would be the best option, but this town is so small that there isn't even a listing for it on craig's list. Do you have any tips for finding roommates? I could ask around at work, but all of the guys are typical small-town douchebags with something to prove, and all of the girls would immediately see a question like that as some sort of sexual advance, which wouldn't fly over well since they all have boyfriends.

Divorces definitely change people, lol.
After the divorce, she started hanging with a bunch of female co-workers from work. They have all been through divorces themselves, and they went for girl's night out a lot, and they had the whole feminism thing lined up I guess.
What ended up happening though, is that instead of becoming a strong, independant woman, she became a hateful person who never considers anyone else before herself.
I've always been closer to my father, and I've always secretly thought that my mother resented me for it. I guess all that is coming to light now.

 

Do people advertise for shared accommodation there?

Whenever I'm desperate for a home I just look up a bunch of houses on Saturday (which is the day when everybody advertises) and drive around and check out the houses and the people living in them. Usually I can find a bunch of seemingly decent people who are willing to have me within a day.

I've met some of my closest friends through house sharing.

 

Depends on how much you eat, but if it's just you alone, fifty bucks a week I'd assume is a good number to budget around. Unless you want to eat expensive foods often lke steaks or crab legs or swiss cheese or whatever else

 

Ok, so you can easily support yourself then. In that case, get the hell outta there.

You can find people looking for roommates without having to know anyone. Use the Internet, bulletin boards and your creativity for this.

The combination of overtime and no social life is great. Get to work, and work your ass off. Stinge and save, don't eat out, don't drink too much, and so on.

 

I work for the Oklahoma Forensic Center, which is an institution for housing people who have been deemed not fit for trial or not guilty by reason of insanity. It's a criminal asylum, basically.
I could most likely find a job that pays more, but since this is a state job, I'm pretty decked out when it comes to insurance. Additionally, I plan to go to school for psychology, and a background with this type of work will probably help me in some fashion later down the road.
Also, in a year I could transfer to the Children's Recovery Center, which is another state-run facility, and have a full-time job that is located in the same city as a university, saving myself one hell of a commute.

That it does man, that it does.

 

I'm not trying to get people to pity me or anything, but they are seriously the type of people that would hinder me for the sole sake of proving a point or being "right".

 

I had this problem in England. I had the perfect job lined up in a pretty little village but the place was so small that I couldn't seem to find a place of my own. I had to live two cities over and travel an hour to and from work on the bus. I just kept asking around, looking in the newspaper and googling the town name until I finally found a girl my age who was desperate for somebody to live with. If you keep asking around, something is bound to turn up...an outdoor shed perhaps? A basement? Maybe you can keep living with your mother until you find the best option.

In reality I don't know very much about the situation in your town, obviously. I'm just trying to be supportive.

Where do people get off being so selfish? What has your mother got now? Shit and a guilty conscience, or no feelings at all.

 

And I appreciate it. Thanks for the advice. I will just have to man up and start asking around, even if that means I end up living with someone who isn't 100% compatible.

It's all reactionary I guess.
It takes a strong person to be able to forgive a "perceived wrong" so strong as a divorce, and move on with their life without letting it change them.
I don't say this out of spite, but my mother has never been a strong person. The only way I know to interpret her is that she is lashing out because she is in pain, or she is antagonizing me because she sees me as a direct extension of my father and not of herself.

 

sounds like a job to hang onto, for sure! and you're right, excellent background to go along with psych. I have a psych degree but am still fixing cars like I was in college lol. which could be a result of lack of ambition, or living in places with tourist based economies. I'm not even sure anymore.

does your job offer any kind of tuition assistance?

 

They offer a scholarship for people who are going into "direct care" fields.
I'm guessing psychology counts?
Congrats on getting your degree BTW, wish I was there lol.