I know many of you won't agree with me here, but I'm still posting this. Do you think that it's right for underage (under 18) children or for teens of 18 and 19 having babies? I'm asking you, does a child need to have a baby? You'll probably say that you're not a child after 12. And should a teen raise a child right? definitly not (99%), because she/he doesn't have enought life experience, and after all it would be boring for her to look after a child, wouldn't it? And after all she/he wants to play and have fun when she/he is a teenager.. If you ask me, 20 is too early too. And 24/25 is normal age for having a child. What's your opinion?
I think the best age to start a family is 25-30. But since our bodies are ready for sex at an earlier age that doesn't always happen. I don't beleive that a child still in high school is ready to take care of a child. While many do, and succeed, they are still not as ready as they would have been if they had waited. 18, 19, 20, is still a little young, but they can provide more than a 15 year can. They can work full time, have a (little) more mature outlook and have more of a parental instinct at that age. Not too long ago every woman married right out of high school and started having babies. They did fine. The world has changed and that's the reason more people are waiting but I don't look at an 18,19, 20 year old girl in disgust when I see her with a baby or a pregnant tummy. I do feel that way when I see girls in high school like that. I'm 18 now I personally want to wait. I have a good man, a great job and a nice home but I feel as though I am not ready. I'm young and things could change. but some girls my age do feel ready and I don't feel as though any one over the age of 18 should really be criticized for having a baby. They are an adult and can make that decision themselves.
I think we all have a different opinion of what might be the perfect age, and what is the right age. I think society is pushing us to believe certain things. Back in the days girls were married by 14 y ears old and had their first of 5 to 10 babies, that is in the beginning of the 20th century. Things have changed now and we get married later, study longer and enjoy the single life and all that stuff. I think it's harder for a mother to have a baby that young but I dont see why it can't be done. It's a trade off. Not recommended if I will Greg
Im not for teens having babies, but things happen and when they do have a baby, majority of them are really good at taking care of them and manage to do a great job. My cousin had a baby at 15, and I admire her, shes 20 now and was and is an excellent mother, and did it all on her own.
It all boils down to the maturity level of the mother and/or father to be. Age is only a number, and a younger parent who sacrafices and cares for her/his child, provides a stable life for them, and gives them the most important thing of all, which is unconditional, never-ending love, then I don't see how an older individual is any better at being a parent than a younger one. I was engaged at 19, married at 20, and had my first son at the age of 21, and my twins at the age of 24. My husband was 25 at the time of our first son's birth, and 28 when we had our twins. He is now 30, and I am 26. I never once regret having a baby at a young age. I never once felt, or feel, like I missed out. I quit my job to become a full-time stay-at-home mother so that I could be the parent that both my husband and I wanted for our children. I love my children more than anybody could possibly imagine and would do absolutely anything for them. I know of quite a few indivuduals that could have, in no way, been a good parent regardless of what age they had they babies. I know of many that should have never had a child, and the ages are well above my husband's. While it's not desirable for young, unwed parents to have babies, what matters is whether they truly care and love their child. That's the bottom line. Judging young parents is unfair. Some of them just might be the best parents you'd ever meet. I know I make mistakes, everyone does, but I do know that I am one damn good mommy.
well my thought is everyone grows up differently and hold different responsibilities. If a person of the age 16-20 knows how to take care themselves and are responsible enough to make wise decisions and they are very very selflessness then yes they are ready to have a child. take me for example.... Im 19 and i am 6 months pregnant. I grew up raising my two nephews and my younger sister. I grew up with alot of responsibility and i also have experienced alot at a very young age. at age 13 I had people thinkin i was the mother of my younger sister. I have had people mistaken me for being much older than i really am and really it all about how you present yourself and the way you talk. so what im trying to say is if the person has great amount of responsibility, knowlegde and selflessness than really they are ready to have a kid cuz what else do you need to prepare for a child
a friend of mine had a baby at 17. she's an awesome lady, and a wonderful parent. the downfall, though, is that because of her age and the fact that she's still in college, she finds it really hard to afford her now 3 year old. she feels a lot of guilt, because she can't buy her daughter the toys and books and movies she wants. and she feels bad because she can't provide the same things for marilyn that a lot of other kids have. even clothes, since kids grow so fast. sure, that's just a material aspect... but being able to afford a kid that young is pretty difficult, overall (for most, anyway, unless you're one of the rare kids with a high paying job).
Okay, I'm really confused here. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and just because they might disagree with someone, how on earth would that teach their children to throw rocks through windows and whatnot? Since when is it neccessary to just nod your head in agreement and go along with everything, no matter what your personal thoughts on the subject may be? How does that teach a child to be an individual with their own thoughts, opinions, and desires? So now you're supposed to teach your children to be followers and never question? Both my husband and I are loving, yet firm parents. We realize that we have the future right here in our hands and we are trying to teach our children through love and gentle discipline. Our kids are extremely well-behaved, and I have received many comments from strangers while we are out in public as to how well-behaved they are, how polite and considerate. It takes a lot of patience, time, and love to teach your children right from wrong, and I am by no means a parenting expert, but I feel like we've done pretty well so far. Unfortunately, with your job, you do without a doubt see a lot of degenerate children coming from unstable, destructive home environments, little discipline, and absolutely no type of conscience, but what about the good children out there? Working around juvenile delinquents might be jading your opinion on "normal" well adjusted, happy children. I agree with you on the fact that there are younger and older parents that are unfit for parenting, which brings me back to the actuality that biological age does not ensure a good parent(s), nor does it indicate that a parent(s) will be incompetent. Much peace Blackie.
i think its sad to see younge girls having baby,S very young .i heard of one girl having a baby aged 12 , but evrey night i see younge girls with 2 or 3 children and no place to live ,its not nice, some are on drugs the cant luck after themselfs ,its a hard life.i agre with blackie .peace,
i think it is generally a bad idea to have a baby at a young age, one reason is because it takes away from more than one life...not only is the child deprived of a good life, but the parents have to deal with it....another reason is that the parents could become bitter and insane and angry towards their children becuase they were robbed of a life...
I've known 35 year olds that should never have had children... I've known 15 year olds that were the best mothers... I was a teen mother. I had to wait until I was 17, to have my first child. I had been trying for some time, before then. But The Universe didn't allow it... I am very happy that I had my kids at the tender ages of 17 and 21. Because now, I'm 34 and my baby is almost 13. I will be 39 when my baby is 18. I will still be young, when my nest is empty.
i dont think i could take care of a baby at my age now, i mean i could do it, but would i want to? no way! i wouldnt be able to support a kid very well as it is now, and if i did have one now id have to quit college and pretty much devote the next 14 or so years to my kid which is not how i wanna spend my time now! i dont really think its fair to the kid if their mother is only 13...
For me personally I will probobly want them around my late twenties or early thirties I love kids but would want to be ready to put my job on hold untill they entered school ect and at 23 I am pretty damn childish myself so I would definitley need to wait untill I growup a little bit. We all mature at different rates...sigh
