What's it like to be attractive?

My whole life I've always been the ugly duckling in my family, and never considered myself beautiful. My mom would even tell me, "It's ok that you're not gorgeous, you have other things going for you", thank mom

Anyway, even though I've grown out of my awkward stage, I'm still pretty self conscious about my appearance.

Were any of you one of those genetic-lotto winners, who've been told you're good-looking every day of your life, and miraculously manage to grow up without suffering the superficial tragedies of teenhood? Do you think being attractive had a significant effect on your confidence and personality? Do you think your life would have been much different had you been ugly?

 

I imagine it's exactly the same as being ugly. Now happy; now sad, etc.

I was told I was attractive quite a bit, and these days I rather people didn't. It didn't miraculously fill me with self-respect.

That, I went on to gain later. When I realized I would respect myself whether or not I was attractive.

 

I was attractive for one day of my life and I did not like it....people only pay attention to you because you "look" good. Otherwise I've been very unattractive for my entire life, so I wouldn't know what it is like to be consistently attractive.

In a society in which superficiality is the norm, my guess is that it'd be somewhat easier to get others to do things for you, make fake "friends" etc...Probably sucks a bit to have many peoples only concern be your looks rather than your thoughts....and I wouldn't doubt a lot of people would pretend to be into their thoughts.

But yeah, what Cherea said as well.

 

Cherea, I thought when I saw a reply from you that you were going to post that video of all those 'good looking' people crying and saying how hard it is to receive constant attention about their looks

Sadie, I think that eventually everyone should get to a point where they aren't affected by other's people's opinions or perceptions of them. Life might be easier in a few ways if you're better looking.. (you might receive more positive attention or it may be easier for you to find a spouse) .. but at the end of the day, those things might simultaneously bring you more hardships.

What is pretty or ugly anyway? Taste differs. I'm beginning to hate threads made by you.

 

Want me to delete it?

 

ummmmmmmmmmmmmm Sadie, unless a picture I saw of you was a fake, you are quite attractive.

 

You pretty much agree with the vid if you genuinely feel what you say above. So what's the prob?

 

the video was the gayest thing my eyes ever saw. that's all.


it was just one of those things where I wanted to be like OKAY live your life and stop letting everyone affect you so damn much.

 

Not all of us can be as strong and secure as you, Priscilla.

By popular request, here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bd4Gpi9ksXw

I love this vid.

 

Because it doesn't mean their life is harder. It means they're equal.

Not just lets all feel sorry for the poor pretty girl.

 

no

 

Thank you. Since going off to college, I have gotten told I'm pretty, but I still have that "ugly mindset" and figure they're just trying to be nice. I mean lot of people here told me I'm average or ugly, but maybe they're just haterz. Who knows? I suppose it doesn't matter. The kind of guys I'm attracted to tend to be average looking by society's standards anyway.

 

I really would have if people said yes. Honest!

 

I didn't think the vid conveyed that their lives are harder. More like, they can be just as inconvenienced and insecure about their image as ugly people.

 

How would you answer the question were you told you were attractive repeatedly from childhood?

I've had people come up to me randomly to inform me that I'm not that attractive, when I had made no claim of being so. Your post reminds me of that.

Being attractive is being told you're attractive repeatedly. To me, that's the only possible definition. Even though the girl that said what you quoted is not attractive to me, what matters is that she was told she is attractive many times.

 

My confidence lies deep within my psyche; and while I’m attractive by anyone’s standard, my outward appearance only helps to bolsters my inner confidence not vice versa


Hotwater

 

Nah, I just find it odd that someone would relate being "ugly" to being unfortunate.

I agree with what you have to say though..."looks" are very relative in my opinion, but that's just for me. There does tend to be societal standards for attractive, there's no denying that.

 

Post of photograph of yourself (preferably nude) and we will judge how ugly you are.

 

everything in life is better.

people smile at you, sometimes give you presents. everything you eat tastes like nachos and has virtually no calories. dog farts smell like fresh blueberry muffins, and you can barely so much as comb your hair without having an orgasm.

when walking down the street, people get out of your way to let you by. women throw themselves at you, and sometimes so do men.

yes, we chosen few have unimaginably wonderful lives, and we smell like lemon pledge furniture cleaner. everything we say is witty, insightful, or both. we are the life of the party, a joy to be around. at church they don't even pass us the offering plate - our presence is more than enough.

 

I just think she was fishing for a PC term for ugly, "I know I'm not ugly." Which tells me she was trying to avoid saying, "Yes! I know I'm attractive" as to deflect possible criticism for being conceited.

You have to say, it's not the easiest question to answer without sounding like a dick. I think the kid answered it best (he is my man! ), "I've had compliments, yes."