Is This ... Normal ?

I've never thought much of it but I have been lately. Being almost 17 and all, I see many of the people around me dating and having boyfriends and girlfriends or at least having love interests. I've never had a boyfriend and I don't have a love interest ... is this ... normal ?

 

Im sure it is normal, maybe you just have really high standards about who you want to go out with? I duno....

HEY...your an aquarius right? (judging by your sig)
high standards about who aquarian people like to date comes naturally apparently.
(sorry if anyone who reads this doesnt believe star signs can affect relationships, but it does kinda make sense, if thats what her problem is of course.)

 

Let me ask you a personal question.... How old were you when you began menstruating?

It is my theory that women/girls become highly interested in the opposite sex, about 4 to 5 years after they first begin menstruation... Of course, not all women fit this, but I have found that most do...

Don't fret over it. When the time is right, you will find someone that attracts you.

 

I can vouch for that. I'm an Aquarius and I've never had a "real" relationship with a girl. Sometimes it kind of bothers me, but my priorities are elsewhere.

 

Yea course! Sometimes, you just get to notice it, and youre like 'hey, I want some of that!' I'm 17 too, and I just recently just started being like "aww that so cute" when I see couples.

 

Ahh, I started kind of early actually, I was 12 when I first started. So I guess that'd make sense cause it'd be 5 years when I turn 17. But I'm not the type of person that says 'aww' when I see couples. I don't know, I'm kind of really confused. ^_^;;

 

To the original postee:

Normal, yes...lol depending what you consider "normal". You're probably one of the smarter gals and don't think ya a misfit cuz you aren't doing what your peers are doing! They will be more likely to spoil some of their opportunities in life being premiscuous and YOU will be more likely to succeed with your goals! It's called self respect & knowing what YOU want for yourself! Lots of time in your life for guys when ya feel ready!

 

Thanks for all the feedback! It's nice to hear there's nothing wrong with me [heh].

 

I didn't have a "GF" until I was 18. I didn't date anyone I truly cared about until I was 19 and it was a very close but brief relationship. Our life situations made it really difficult to work out. Anyway, I'm an aquarious, so there might be something to it.

Who knows, but you're definetly "normal" if there is such a thing.

Peace

 

I know a guy who's 24 yrs old and still a virgin. He's good looking, he ain't a christian ( ), he's funny, good company..... but for some reason, he's just never met the right girls. A lot of it comes down to luck.

Like other people have said, standards have a lot to do with it too. I've been in a relationship for seven years now, but it wasn't unusual for me to be single for long periods, simply because I was very fussy about who I was attracted to. Looks like it paid off though, coz my current relationship is perfect

 

Yeah, of course it's normal.. and fuck, even if it wasn't normal, you can't force attraction or love. And remember that change is the only constant.. your life could change completely the moment you wake up tomorrow!

 

im 15 and i never had a gf yet. like what always happens is that i have a usually good friend who i focus on and whatnot, but then ignore everyone else pretty much. then that friend drifts away from me and someone else comes along, so i focus on few people, but never succeed.

 

Oh you still have your life ahead of you...people will come and go!

 

It's normal for me. The only love I have in my life is Robby Krieger and that's all I want....

 

yeah, it's actually really cool to not be in a relationship at that age. i wish i hadn't had a boyfriend at 17. but i did. and it just complicated my life even further. being a teenager is hard as it is. i mean, i don't regret doing it, because it taught me a lot of lessons, but i wish i hadn't spent so much time with him and i wish i'd spent more time with my friends during that relationship. but that was years ago. my life is good now, so i guess it all turned out ok still, feel lucky you are "unchained" right now. you know yourself pretty well it seems. such a good gift to have! you have your whole adult life for dating and relationships. now is a good time to be single

 

i was 17 when i had my first boyfriend, kiss, and even the first time i held hands with a boy, everyone is starting soo early with relationships these days, when i was your age i felt left out of the loop too b/c it was like even 13 yr olds had someone and i didnt, but i was happy being single and i just waited for the right person, and that person showed up when i was 17 and is still with me 2 yrs later today. i would much rather wait for the right person and have a meaningful relationship than date around a different guy every month like i see soo often with people, i dunno i am just the kind of person who cant do that, it needs to mean something to me. so dont rush anything itll happen when its supposed to.

 

I don't know about the menstration thing. It could have a correlation, but I remember having my first crush on a man when I was 6 years old. I didn't start menstrating until I was like 15 I think (I played sports and didn't drink hormone overloaded milk). I liked boys the entire time leading up to that point. Guess it all just depends on the person.

Anyway, what you are going through is completely normal. I don't see why it would not be normal. Who cares what everyone else is doing. You are a unique person, embrace that. And like everyone else has said, you just haven't found the right person yet, nothing wrong with that. Actually that can work in your favor because you have it within you to not just settle for any relationship just for the sake of having one so you probably won't have too many bad relationships in your life.

 

i feel you, ichigo_fizz, im 17 and never-been kissed or had a bf.
well not on the lips, but things are looking up lately
altho im different, i ALWAYS have a love intrest, ima hopeless romance-less romantic
but as someone in the same situ as you, i always remind myself it will all be sweeter when you get it cuz you kno better what you want. all of your passion is sweet, just like wine is finer the longer it ages. (yea, spoken like a true way-pass-expiration-date virgin)


dont let anyone rush you

 

i'm not to shure about that. I became interested in boys when I was 11, I had my first b/f at 12 and sex when I was 17 - and I didnt masterbate till I was 18....but maby I'm just strange?

 

"Normal" is a myth. Don't believe it. You are not normal...nor should you aspire to be.